Episode 150 – Arisha Boyrangee

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Richard Matthews  0:00  

Heroes are an inspiring group of people, every one of them from the larger than life comic book heroes you see on the big silver screen, the everyday heroes that let us live the privileged lives we do. Every hero has a story to tell, the doctor saving lives at your local hospital, the war veteran down the street, who risked his life for our freedom to the police officers and the firefighters who risked their safety to ensure ours every hero is special and every story worth telling. But there was one class of heroes that I think is often ignored the entrepreneur, the creator, the producer, the ones who look at the problems in this world and think to themselves, you know what I can fix that I can help people I can make a difference. And they go out and do exactly that by creating a new product or introducing a new service. Some go on to change the world, others make a world of difference to their customers. Welcome to the Hero Show. Join us as we pull back the masks on the world’s finest hero preneurs and learn the secrets to their powers their success and their influence. So you can use those secrets to attract more sales, make more money and experience more freedom in your business. I’m your host, Richard Matthews, and we are on in 3…2…1…

 

Richard Matthews  0:00  

Hello, and welcome back to The Hero Show. My name is Richard Matthews. And I am live on the line today with Arisha Boyrangee. Did I say that correctly?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  0:00  

Yes you did. 

 

Richard Matthews  0:20  

Awesome. So I’m so glad to have you here, Arisha, you said you were coming in from from outside of London. Is that right?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  0:25  

Yeah, that’s correct, an area called Berkshire.

 

Richard Matthews  1:16  

Awesome. That’s really cool. I can’t wait to go visit London. Actually, the whole UK I want to see all of it. The most I’ve gotten to see is that we flew over at once when I was going to a trip to Russia. And I was like, hey, that’s UK, we got to see, I think we flew over the northern part of the country. You can see all the clips when we flew over. Which is super cool. But I would like to actually go and visit London at some point.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  1:37  

You are always welcome.

 

Richard Matthews  1:39  

Well, not right now because everything’s under lockdown. But whenever the world decides to get a little less crazy, maybe we’ll get to go visit.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  1:46  

I’m excited for that day.

 

Richard Matthews  1:48  

Absolutely. So for those of you in the audience been following along where we are, in our travels, we’ve been stopped where we are in South Carolina at the moment in our travels and we will be continuing on with our travels probably sometime later this year. Hopefully our lockdowns here in the US Open up a little bit. And it gets a little less crazy with some of the political stuff that’s been going on here. So we’ll get back to traveling soon. But I want to do real quick Arisha is go through a brief bio for audience who may not know who you are, and then we can start talking about what you’re known for. So AArisha says here in her bio, I support women reorganize their lives. And I’m moving this thing in the wrong direction, by first strengthening their inner confidence and finding their voice so they can go for what they truly want and start living a more fulfilled life. So and it says you’re a quarter life crisis coach, which is an interesting title. So I’m curious, what is it that you are known for? Right? What’s your business? Like? Who do you serve? And what is it that you do for them.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  2:52  

So I support women who feel like they have that missing piece still, I feel you know, you can go to school, college, university, and find a job, the job and still feel like you don’t really fit into your own life, and that you still have so many wants and things that you want to do. But you have no idea where to begin, and nothing really fits correctly. And I support women in finding their truest purpose like rediscovering what they want, and building that mindset and strength towards actually going for what they want, instead of doing what everybody else is doing in life.

 

Richard Matthews  3:35  

Awesome. So you’re helping women who are like just out of college, maybe just before becoming a mom or getting into their careers or some of those things and sort of make that transition into where they want to go.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  3:48  

Yes, so I support roughly 25 to 45 I’d say those are the people that associate themselves with my brand. And those are the people that reach out and have a chat.

 

Richard Matthews  3:59  

So I know that says what you do then my next question is how do you go about doing that? Are you doing like group coaching or individual coaching? Or do you have books podcasts sort of what are the methods that you actually use to work with your audience?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  4:13  

Yes, so is through one to one coaching I think that’s kind of where all of the magic happens. But also a lot of my clients it’s the comfort thing when you’ve got full attention and you can go a little deeper a lot faster when it’s one on one.

 

Richard Matthews  4:32  

So just because it’s pertinent for today’s world, how has that transition in one on one coaching been affected by all the lockdowns and having to move business more virtual has that improved your business or made it more difficult?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  4:46  

I think it’s improved because I’m already online my business is on zoom most of the time or through social media like one on one. And I think it’s improved because people have gotten used to using zoom and teams and messaging people and reaching people via social media. So I think it’s gotten a lot easier in that sense. And which sounds strange to say that especially in a shop.

 

Richard Matthews  5:15  

yeah.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  5:17  

But yeah, I think it really helped my business actually,

 

Richard Matthews  5:20  

The metaphor I’ve been using for people is when you have something like a global pandemic, that squeezes the economy, it’s like one of those stress balls, where some parts of the economy will be depressed. But if you squeeze the ball, but then other parts of it will bulge out, because they’re going to get easy or something like that. Like, if you were in the plastic bottle manufacturing right now, for hand sanitizer, your business is doing fine. But yeah, so there’s a lot of places that are anything that’s working in the online space, Zoom, those types of businesses are all doing really well. So I’m glad to hear your business has been doing well in the in the whole change over here. But what I sort of want to find out from you is how you got into doing this? We talked on the show about your origin story. Every good comic book hero has their origin story. And it’s the thing that made you into the hero you are today, where you bit by a radioactive spider that made you want to help women? Or did you start in a career and eventually want to become an entrepreneur? Basically, I want to know where you came from, and how you got to where you are now?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  6:29  

I think I have two answers. I think that being an entrepreneur, is something that you’re born with, whether you realize it or not, I think it’s like an arm that you utilize when you’re ready and when you’re open and willing to do so. But for me, I started my journey in the corporate world, I used to work for HR company who supported people who’d been made redundant through coaching into their next stage job. And I fell in love with coaching that way. And I got a psychology background anyway. And I love working with people. And so that’s what my coaching were opened up. And then I realized that I wanted to do things my way because I’m kind of stubborn like that. And I decided to go it alone and try and see if I could make my own stamp on this coaching world and do it my way. And yeah, that was it. I think the coaching world has so many different types of coaches in it, and which is great and can be a good and negative at the same time. But I really did think that this was the only way that I could do it my way was to start out on my own and not work for somebody else and do it somebody else’s way.

 

Richard Matthews  7:49  

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I know. When I discovered when I was like 16 or 17 at one of my first jobs that I made a terrible employee. And it’s just not a thing I’m good at right? I don’t do well with other people telling me how to do the things that I want to do. And so I had the entrepreneur bug young. But yeah, it’s definitely a cool realization to realize that you can actually build your business the way that you want and help the people in the way that you want to do it. And I think one of the more interesting aspects is you actually started out in the corporate world and made that transition into becoming an entrepreneur. And I know that’s a tough transition for entrepreneurs to make sometimes, because when you’re in the employee world, you have someone else who’s bringing you clients, so to speak, and bringing you work and telling you what to do next. And the marketing is done for you. And the books are done for you and all those stuff. And when you become an entrepreneur, you have to take on all those roles yourself. So how was that transition for you?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  8:52  

Tough, it was really tough. I learned really early on that I needed support. And because I came from the corporate world, and then went out on my own, I knew that it takes a team it takes a crew to work a business all day every day. And when you’re starting out as an entrepreneur, you have no idea where to go. And I think because I’d already knew and understood that I needed support. Hiring my first business coach wasn’t really a decision, it was just who am I going to hire as opposed to do I hire somebody. And then the next realization was that I need somebody to do the things that I’m not really good at. Because when you work in the corporate world, there’s teams of people in tech and finance and HR, so you got people to immediately go to and I realized that my circle was quite small. So I needed to network and connect and build my world as it were with people that I could go to for support and go for guidance and advice, and I think that’s the difference. When you’re starting out, you can feel like you’re really alone and you’re an island. But building your support system with the people that are able to support you would be my number one tip and my number one priority to start with, because I know it is the beginning.

 

Richard Matthews  10:22  

It’s so commonly said, it’s almost cliche, but that your network is your net worth. You realize as an entrepreneur, how important it is to have, whether they are peers, or people that you’ve hired or people that are in your network groups or masterminds that you can bring stuff to and get questions answered, and get direction or hire someone for services that you’re like, I just can’t do that. Because it drives me batty or because I don’t literally don’t know how to do it. It’s such an important aspect of learning how to be an entrepreneur.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  10:55  

100% agree.

 

Richard Matthews  10:58  

So when you’ve gotten into this, right, one of the things that we talk about all the time on this show is your superpowers. That’s what allows you to do what you do for your clients in every iconic hero has a superpower, whether that’s a fancy flying suit made by genius intellect with the ability to call down Thunder from the sky, or super strength or whatever. Heroes have what I call a zone of genius, which is either a skill or a set of skills that you were born with or you developed over your career, that really sets you apart that allow you to help your people slay their villains in their life, and actually come out on top in their journeys. And I always like to say that your superpower is really just that one skill that ties everything else together that you do. It’s the one that you can sort of see that hint of that superpower and everything that you do. So with tha sort of framing What do you think your superpower is in your business?t

 

Arisha Boyrangee  11:50  

I would have to say, my superpower is my ability to listen, and not listen to react, but listen to understand, comprehend, and then go on to support. And I think that in itself. A lot of coaches should have and don’t. And I think it is a real skill that you do have to work on and have the ability to expand and to develop and be better at but I think that there is a natural aspect. And I am a naturally good listener. I hear what people say I hear what people don’t say, I hear what people need. And and it supported my special power is definitely supported with my intuitive skill as well. And that is something that you are born with, I believe because being intuitive does not come to everybody very easy. Well, I think it’s those two mixs that make me a really good coach.

 

Richard Matthews  12:48  

Yeah, and I think you said something really powerful that you said quickly, I want to make sure that people heard it is that you listen, and you comprehend, right, and you actually like, which I think goes to the intuition that you’re actually paying attention to the words that they’re saying you’re not reacting. And one of the things that I’ve talked about a lot is that the way that mastery works, is that they say between stimulus, you hear someone saying something and your response, which is the reaction, there’s choice, there’s stuff that happens. And mastery is when the choices between stimulus and response have gotten so fast and so quick that you can get really good at it. Right. So high level martial artists olympians in their sport fields, they’re masters because the stimulus comes in and they respond immediately. it’s second nature. And I think when it comes to coaching, one of the things that’s really, really valuable is to learn how to teach people how to separate the stimulus from the response so they can see the decisions that they’re making and what’s going on in between stimulus and response. That’s where you can come in and be like, hey, I’ve listened. And I’ve heard and I’ve seen these things, and you can see things that they can’t see right, you can see the decisions they’re making. And that’s where the whole comprehending and stuff comes in. And the intuition that makes sense.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  14:01  

Yeah a 100%. And I also think, just to add to that, which is super, super valuable, but it’s something that part you can learn, you can learn to take a breath before you react, you can take a moment to think about how you’re going to react. And that’s so important for a lot of people, they don’t realize that they’re not always needed to be on instantly, they have the ability and the choice, like you said, to react.

 

Richard Matthews  14:28  

Yeah, and one of the things that I found really fascinating about that, there’s actually some science to back up the whole the idea between stimulus and response is the amount of speed that your brain is capable of, which is super fascinating, right? We talk at about 100 150 words a minute, but your brain processes language at about 3000 words per minute, which is significantly faster. So your ability to take a breath and actually you can fit a lot of thoughts and a lot of cognition in between the response in a very short period of time, but it still has to be something that you’re cognizant of, you have to think about it, you have to actually take that brief moment to pay attention to what’s going on.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  15:16  

Yeah, it’s a muscle that is without utilization, you just ignore it, right. And so yeah, in the beginning, you absolutely have to think about what you’re about to say. And then it can become second nature it can become a skill you use.

 

Richard Matthews  15:30  

And when it becomes second nature, that’s when you become a master of whatever it is that you’re doing. And so that’s my little thing for people is, if you want to master something, you have to learn how to separate those, learn how to make all the decisions, like what all the stuff are, and then you can close that back up again, and start making it faster and faster. But now you’re in control of what decisions are happening, and you can change what your second nature risk reactions are.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  15:56  

Yes.

 

Richard Matthews  15:57  

So that’s how you become a master. And so that’s definitely an interesting superpower to have, is to sort of have that sort of intuition naturally. And what I think is fascinating is a lot of people think that kind of skill set that you have naturally is something that they can’t achieve. And I think you probably agree that if you practice that you can learn to have intuition, you can learn to listen and learn to see the decisions that are being made in your life.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  16:31  

Yeah, I do believe that people can become better than they are. And I think that the key to that is awareness. And it takes a lot for you to be aware of your special skills, your special talents. When sometimes in a world, it’s not really respected. It’s not really noted. And it’s not really understood very well. Like if I went on the streets and told people, yeah, my superpower is listening, they’ll be like, everyone can listen, you know what I mean? And it’s really understanding how powerful your tool can be for yourself and others as well, that you’re trying to help.

 

Richard Matthews  17:09  

Yeah, and I think that the sort of the next step to being aware of like, what it is that you have your superpowers in is then learning how you can take that superpower, and how to apply it as a value in other people’s lives. Because that’s where your ability to support yourself and build your own. Your own place in the world comes is learning how they’re like, hey, what is it that I have? What is my skills, my perspective and my life experience? They brought me here, and how can I then take that and be a value to someone else?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  17:35  

Yeah, exactly. I think that’s how we build great communities, right? Like, that’s how we create a nicer a world for everybody around us. And then that builds onto itself and grows and grows and grows.

 

Richard Matthews  17:51  

That’s the whole reason this show exists, right is because, I still believe that entrepreneurs are the heartbeat of our world, right? We exist to bring value to other people. And the more we can help people find what their value is, and teach them how to bring it to the world, the better our world gets.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  18:12  

Absolutely. Yeah. And it’s those people that, that create the little things that we need as well. And I love that.

 

Richard Matthews  18:19  

Yeah, absolutely. So I want to talk about the flip side then of your superpower, right? So every Superman has his kryptonite. And every Wonder Woman has her bracelets of victory she can’t remove without going mad, you probably have a flaw in your life that’s held your business back something you’ve struggled with. For me, it was a couple of things, things like perfectionism, which meant that I kept me from shipping products and services. I still struggle with that a little bit. But it’s something I work on regularly. Another one was self care where I let my clients walk all over me because I didn’t have good boundaries and didn’t really know how to set those boundaries in my business early in my career. But I think more important than what the flaw is, is how have you worked to rectify it. So our listeners might learn a little bit from your experience.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  19:03  

So this is a very recent one for me. And I recently learned that my patience is shortened and shortened and shortened, the longer my entrepreneurial journey has been going. And I think the reason why is because as you go, you learn and as you learn, you get better. So you have that more of an expectation of yourself to do things quicker and to do things better. And giving yourself patience isn’t something that you allow yourself time for, right? Because if you have an idea, you want it out there in the world acting immediately. And that’s how I constantly think like I’m quite a creative person. So I’ve got ideas just floating around in my head that I want to create for my clients and on the world. And so really holding myself accountable to being aware of what I’m doing to myself and the self sabotage that I’m doing and being super aware of uncertainty. And as you mentioned, self care has to come number one, if I’m doing more harm to myself than I am good, and being impatient with myself just leaves me more stressed out more frustrated. And just in a really negative mindset, that’s not going to help anybody, at least of all me. So that self care piece has to be there to make sure that I am giving myself the space and the time that I need to develop new ideas and to do even the everyday mundane things as well. So yeah, that’s definitely my kryptonite.

 

Richard Matthews  20:38  

That’s an interesting thing too right? Because we all struggle with that with like, hey, I’ve got stuff that I want to have done six months ago, but sometimes you don’t realize that when you set out something like I’ve got this great idea, I want to get it done. But there’s a lot of effort into having it be done. I’m currently working on a course. And I’ve got to write every lesson for it and get all this stuff recorded, and then get the stuff recorded to my video editors and get the pieces put together and write the copy for the website and all these things I’m like, but it’s just a course it should only it’s only going to be like four hours long, but it’s gonna take me half a year to finish. And being frustrated by that whole process doesn’t actually help get it done.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  21:21  

And I think one of my favorite cliche sayings is, everything happens for a reason, there is a time there is a place for absolutely everything. And just reminding myself that and believing it completely, is what sets you free from impatience and all of these other things. And it’s just about giving myself that time to remember the good things as well.

 

Richard Matthews  21:44  

I think, for me, it’s always been realizing that I don’t need to finish the whole project today, what I need to do is I need to finish the next step today, I need to be clear about what that is. And realizing that it’s one of those things that they snowball they build on themselves if you can push your project forward or push whatever your ideas are forward just a little bit every day. eventually, they’ll get done. And that’s been a help for me with getting over that. being impatient with myself a bit.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  22:16  

Yeah, that is a great tool to have as well, and a great understanding as well.

 

Richard Matthews  22:21  

Yeah. So I’m just curious on the self care aspect, when it gets into, like actually taking care of yourself and making sure that you are healthy and fit and well rested. One of the things I talk about all the time on this show is giving yourself permission to play. And what I mean by that is a lot of times we as entrepreneurs tend to think that rest and recreation are something that we are reward ourselves with, for when we do a good job on our work, instead of the reality is that rest and recreation are a foundational requirement for even doing good work in the first place. So I’m just curious what your thoughts are on that whole idea of rest and recreation and actually taking care of yourself.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  23:04  

And so I think exactly the same as you do. So I think that there should always be some sort of self care, or just kindness to yourself every single day. But on top of that, everything that we do, everything that we’re creating everything that we’re acting on, should have some form of joy in it. Like it should be something that you love to do that you want to because you know that it will put a smile on someone’s face or support someone in some way. Or even if it is just to put a smile on your own face. But everything that we do and produce and create should have a little bit of joy, and it should have a little bit of love in it. And I think that’s how we support ourselves as well. If we’re doing things that we don’t love to do all the time, we’re never going to enjoy what we do in our lives. And we’re going to create more of a negative mindset and continue and build a negative mindset. Whereas if we create and do things that we love, will create more of a positive outcome in this world. So I think two things there should always be a form of self love in every day, even if it’s just to sit down for five minutes with a cup of tea. Just give yourself that five minutes because your reward yourself so much more and produce much more after you’ve given a little bit of love to yourself than you would if you’re just rushing through your day. Yeah. And you make sure you do what you love. I think that’s key to life.

 

Richard Matthews  24:33  

Absolutely. And it could be anything from taking your dog for a walk to a wrestling match with your boys to just something that’s it’s legitimately not anything that’s gonna push your business forward. It just makes you happy. Yeah. There’s such a key place for like, as you said, joy in your business and I talk a lot about you have to know the monster you’re building right cuz your business is the kind of little monster that you have going and you have to realize like if you’re building a monster that you don’t like, you’re not going to want to care for it and feed it and do the work that’s required. Right? So you need to build the monster you enjoy being around.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  25:12  

Gremlins, they can either turn evil or good, it’s up to you.

 

Richard Matthews  25:16  

Absolutely, you got to have a little joy in what you’re working on. So my next question for you then is about your common enemy. So every superhero has an arch nemesis, it’s a thing that they constantly have to fight against in their world. In the world of business. it takes on many forms. But generally, we talked about this in terms of your clients, right, the people that you are working with, on a regular basis, and it’s a mindset, or it’s a flaw that you’re constantly having to fight to overcome so that you can help your people get better, cheaper, faster, a higher degree of results. And it’s a thing like, if you had your magic wand, and every client that hired, you could just pat them on the head and not have to deal with that anymore. What is your arch nemesis that you deal with your clients?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  25:55  

It is the I don’t know how to word it, the comparison, everybody feels like they need to look like everybody else will be doing what everybody else is doing. And I think that there is so much power in the individual and being completely independent, there is so much power in just knowing that you are the right person in the right body with the right mind, and have those capabilities. And so often, people talk about, well, she’s so much better at business, or they’ve got such a better foundation than I have, or they’ve got more money or they’ve got more time or their kids are more well behaved, and so on and so on. And keeping those comparisons going around in your head doesn’t help you. What helps you is finding your superpower, what helps you is finding your individualness and the fact that part of you is special in this world. And that’s unique to you, and utilizing that going forward, as opposed to comparing yourself to what other people are doing or value in their lives.

 

Richard Matthews  26:58  

Yeah, it’s really interesting. We have a phrase over here, and in the US, I’m not sure if they use the same thing over in the UK, but we say, keeping up with the Joneses. And it’s the idea that you’re comparing your life to someone else’s. And the problem with that is generally what you see in anyone else’s life is what they put forward. Right? You see them outside, and you’re comparing their outside to your inside. Which is it’s not a valuable comparison for any reason. So you never come out of comparing yourself with useful or actionable insights. So it’s just not a useful exercise.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  27:37  

Yeah, so you’re basically basing your whole wants and needs on fake news, which doesn’t help anybody. 

 

Richard Matthews  27:45  

It doesn’t help you, it doesn’t help them. And when you realize that it also makes it easier to actually make decisions that are gonna get you where you want to go. Because you realize that, hey, it’s just up to me, and it’s up to figuring out what I’m good at what my skills are, or where my skills are lacking, and I need to improve them, right? it’s a

 

Arisha Boyrangee  28:09  

Sorry, go ahead. But also understanding that there is so much power in your uniqueness because nobody else is gonna be like you, nobody else is gonna act like you. And that’s magical. That’s incredible. So I don’t know, like the way to say it. But that’s what we need to utilize a hell of a lot more.

 

Richard Matthews  28:30  

So I have a metaphor I use for people to describe that. And I call it the crocodile infested River. And so the crocodile infested river it’s the problem that people are facing. Right? And so, you, for instance, are helping women come into their own and realize who they are. Right. So that’s the crocodile infested river that’s going on. And they have a choice. They’re on one side of the river. They’re like, I’m over here. And I want to get over there to the promised land, which is, I know who I am. And I know what I’m doing. And I have a handle on my life. And I know what my career is like, and I know my superpower, that’s where they want to be. But between here and there is this river infested with crocodiles, and they’re standing on the edge going, I want to get over there and they could take their own path they could dive in, and they could swim across and hopefully, they don’t get eaten by alligators on the way. Or they could work with someone like you who’s like, you know what, I’ve got a boat. And my boat. This is might be your one on one coaching and I’ve got a boat and it’s got all sorts of cool stuff on it. Right? It’s got crocodile disintegrating lasers on it. We’ve got a navigation system, we got all this cool stuff in our boat. But the most important part of the boat is that it has you as the captain, right? You’ve been across this river before you have a perspective that they don’t have. And you have the ability to take something like hey, I’ve been here I’ve done that I’ve got a unique perspective, because you’re the captain of that boat and what you’re doing is you’re helping women realize what their power is as a captain of their boat, right? So they find their value they find whatever their boat is, so they can help other people, cross their crocodile infested rivers and realize that their uniqueness is, is coming in and being the captain of that boat to bring their perspective and their uniqueness to that solution.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  30:17  

I like that analogy. That’s for keep.

 

Richard Matthews  30:20  

That’s my little analogy for helping people understand where their uniqueness fits into their value.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  30:26  

Yeah, absolutely. I love that. I might steal it.

 

Richard Matthews  30:30  

You’re welcome to steal it. I stole the basic concept of the crocodile infested river from someone else. So welcome to pass it on. So the flip side then of your common enemy is your driving force. And it just like Spider Man fights to save New York or Batman fights to save Gotham or Google fights to index and categorize all the world’s information. I want to know what it is that you fight for in your business, your mission, so to speak.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  30:57  

I think my mission is, for people to realize that they have everything that they need within them, that you don’t need to be a part of a community you’re a part of, on a career path that is laid out for you that you get to choose your own life and do it your own way. There’s no cutoff date, there’s no age limit, there’s no size limits, it’s entirely up to you. And you get to choose how you want to live your life. And I think there’s so much freedom and understanding that all of these answers lie within you, you already have them. They’re already there. You just have to dig them out of you. 

 

Richard Matthews  31:37  

And it’s so true too right? When you think about all the people and what it actually takes to build something of magnificence. And generally, it’s about 10 years, right? You hear things like the story of KFC here in the United States, which is a chicken restaurant, the guy who built that Colonel Sanders built that when he was like, 69, or 70. And he turned it into a huge national powerhouse, right? There’s no age limits, there’s nothing that’s gonna stop you from doing it other than yourself, right? And you can build whatever you want, and help people. And I think the most important part of that is just realizing that, hey, you know what, coming to that decision that I have something I want to do for people, and then going out and doing it, and not letting anything stop you from it.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  32:20  

Yeah, so true. Exactly that.

 

Richard Matthews  32:24  

Awesome. So I want to talk a little bit about some practical things. I call this the Heroes tool belt. Just like every superhero has a tool belt with awesome gadgets, like batarangs, or web slingers, or laser eyes, or big magical hammers that can call Thunder down from this guy, I want to talk about the top one or two tools you use in your business that you couldn’t live without could be anything from your notepad to your marketing tools, to your product delivery, anything you think is essential to getting your job done on a daily basis.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  32:54  

I think number one is your circle the people that you have around to your community, I think that the entrepreneurial journey is tough, but it’s made so much easier with people that are there to support you when you need support or are there to just listen to you, or to take your mind completely off of your business. Either way, there are always moments where you’re just going to need somebody to rant to, and having those people around you that are there who just love you, and who want you to succeed and support you in any way is key because it’s tough. And life should be full of friends that are there to support you and to love you. And then number two would be meditation. I 100% believe that everybody should meditate, even if it is just to create a bit of space for your brain for six minutes a day, that is something that everybody needs. I think it helps us tap into our subconscious. It helps relieve emotional turmoil. It supports our growth and our memory and our minds. And it’s such a powerful tool that is underutilized, I think.

 

Richard Matthews  34:12  

Yeah. So I am not one that has spent a lot of time meditating. So what my curiosity for you then is what is your recommendation for those of us who are listening to if we wanted to get into meditating? And like actually learn a little bit how to use it and how it might actually improve our business where would you recommend someone start with that?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  34:30  

Number one, just call me just ask me and I’ll take you through it. Number two, find yourself a free app. So I used to use the insight timer, which is a brilliant free app. And it’s got so many different types of meditations, whether you want to be guided whether you want music, whether you just want to hear about why it’s good. It’s such a brilliant start up and it’s totally free. And I would also recommend Deepak Chopra, I think his meditations have supported me. Be more me, my life so much. And I think he has managed to, I’ve listened to quite a few people’s meditations and his meditations are always so good. And so I would highly recommend him. And also just go on YouTube, it’s not difficult to just type in meditation for anxiety, meditation for anger, meditation for focus, it’s super, super easy. Just understand why you need it, and YouTube will be your friend. It will give you what you want. 

 

Richard Matthews  35:36  

So is that something you recommend to all of your clients as well as to start a practice of meditation? Yeah, just 6 minutes. What’s your sales pitch, then for meditation to get someone to actually want to do it.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  35:53  

We are constantly thinking, we’re constantly thinking of the next thing to do the next thing to do. And we always feel like we don’t have enough time. And we don’t really have a full grasp of our day. Because time just slips through us like whether we want it to or not. And meditation allows you to just take a moment, and really just hyperfocus on you. And that’s when we really know what our next steps should be. Because once you clear all the fuss, once you clear all the mess, or the fog, what you get is what you truly want. And continuously working on that aspect of clearing all the things that you don’t really need in your life. And focusing on the things that you do need and do want to do will help you build on your purpose and help you build the life that you really want. So meditation at that very first moment of you just learning to clear all of the mess out of the way.

 

Richard Matthews  36:46  

So how does that tie back into our discussion of self care we were having earlier.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  36:51  

I think it’s most important, I think that allowing yourself and giving yourself permission and giving yourself time to focus on you is huge. Whether you think that self care is just a thing that people do on Sundays, or whether it’s something that you believe that you should be doing every single day, giving yourself time to find out more about you, and to rediscover why you’re this emotion that day and then another emotion the next day, really listening to who you are. And just sitting still allows you so much more space in your day. It really is such a great tool to use.

 

Richard Matthews  37:28  

Absolutely. So I know it’s something that I’ve had on my list of things to learn for a number of years, I think 2021 maybe my year to actually get into meditation. So I need to actually sit down and start making that part of my daily practice, maybe setting up my tasks for the day and taking some time to meditate and really figure out what needs to be next.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  37:52  

Yeah. And you’ll soon realize how helpful it is as well because it doesn’t take months and months is literally the next moment. You’re like, Oh, actually, I do really want to get this done.

 

Richard Matthews  38:04  

Yeah, absolutely. And I think it’s probably helpful for just grounding yourself in the middle of, you know, we’re currently experiencing a lot of stuff globally. And politically, that is just not normal. And just grounding yourself and realizing that, hey, you know, the sun is still rising, the flowers are still blooming, our world is still going on the way that it’s gonna go on. And you still have to be in charge of your own personal economy and making the next steps and doing whatever you need to do to make your business and your life grow.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  38:34  

Yeah, I think that it is one of those things that you should do for yourself. It doesn’t necessarily have to have a whole meditation room on the floor with 10,000 candles. You can meditate while you go for a walk, you can meditate whilst you’re kicking. You don’t have to do it exactly the way that TV says it does it anytime that you can just take quiet time, just a moment for yourself.

 

Richard Matthews  38:59  

Though it would be cool if you had a room with 10,000 candles. 

 

Arisha Boyrangee  39:02  

It would be a fire hazard. 

 

Richard Matthews  39:07  

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Richard Matthews  40:45  

I want to talk to them a little bit about your own personal heroes, right? So every hero has their mentors. Frodo had Gandalf Luke had Obi Wan Kenobi Robert Kiyosaki had his rich dad, Spider Man even had his Uncle Ben. So who were some of your heroes, were they real life mentors, were the speakers, authors, maybe peers who are a couple of years ahead of you, and how important were they to what you’ve accomplished so far in your own journey?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  41:10  

I think it goes back to having a really supportive circle of friends like, when you have an idea, and you think you’re going a bit insane, especially when you’ve got a job that so many people would want in the corporate world. And you’re on the outside winning when you change direction completely and go out on your own. Just having your circle of friends, those people that you can bounce off of that are there to support you is super, super important. It doesn’t matter who they are, whether they’re your parents, or your friends, or a mentor. Just having those people really, really helps. And I love my business coach, currently, her name is Claire McPherson. And she’s phenomenal. She is the one that taught me that my intuition was key to making my business, my business generally mean, and the way that she works with female entrepreneurs, the way that she works with me, I just absolutely love the space that she gives to people to just be themselves and build a business around them, not around all of the steps that other people say to do, like wake up at 5am, get this out, get this email sequence going. It’s all about how you want to work your business and on what platform you want to work on. And it’s very much centered around your personal intuition and your personal voice. And then that’s how you build your business from there. And I love that method.

 

Richard Matthews  42:41  

Yeah, for me, in the circle of friends and the people it’s always been key to have at least one person in your life that I call him your running partner, someone who you can bring everything you’re doing to and they can they help you make it better or kick in the ass if you’re lying to yourself or not, not doing what you need to be doing. Having that one person is not afraid to be like, hey, that’s probably a bad idea. And you probably shouldn’t waste your time with. It’s definitely important to have those people in your life. And it doesn’t need to be a large group, right? A really effective mastermind, if you want to call it that is, it’s two or three people that you can regularly talk to you and bring your stuff to you and tell them what your goals are, and be accountable to.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  43:35  

Yeah, and just to like, tell it just to say just to be supportive, it’s great to be able to have all of the voices going on in your head, but to get them out to other people is even better.

 

Richard Matthews  43:48  

Yeah, and the other thing that I found too, is when you commit something to yourself, it’s really easy to ignore it. But when you tell someone else, it suddenly becomes like, Hey, I’m gonna let this person down, if I don’t actually deliver. So I’ve always found that really useful as well.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  44:08  

That accountability piece is super important because I think we can have a never ending deadline if we just tell ourselves, whereas if we give somebody else the information and to hold into support, they’re always going to be able to check-in and the next time you speak to them, they’re going to be like, Oh, so what happened to this and it does keep you a little bit more accountable.

 

Richard Matthews  44:26  

Yeah, absolutely. So the next thing I want to talk about then is your guiding principles, right. One of the things that make heroes heroic, is that they live by a code. For instance, Batman never kills his enemies, he only ever brings them to Arkham Asylum. So as we wrap up the interview, I’m going to talk about the top one, maybe two principles that you regularly use in your life, maybe something you wish you had known when you first started out on your own hero’s journey.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  44:50  

Um, I think that you are always learning. I think that asked aspect of I already know that can happen so often. And you can fall into that pit of assuming that you understand every single concept out there. And like, everything happens for a reason you can fall into understanding the words. But do you understand the meaning behind that lesson? Do you understand the meaning behind that concept. And I think as long as you’re always learning, and you’re always trying to get a bit deeper, and get a bit closer, and get a bit more certain of what that means for you, then you’re always going to be winning, you’re always going to be growing, you’re always going to be achieving more and more of what you want out of your life. So I think, constantly learning and not just saying, well, I’ve done my degree, that’s it. And constantly picking up new information and new ideas, or thinking about things differently, is a really brilliant tool. And I think everybody should understand that. They’re always learning and they always have the capability of doing more, especially as we get older. I think people have a certain cutoff point, right? I’ve achieved director title in this company, I’m good, I’m done. Well, no, because you still got the rest of your life to live. So there’s still more in you that you can achieve. You don’t have, there’s no cutoff point in our lives. So I think just knowing that and appreciating all the information that comes to you, as a lesson is super, super important.

 

Richard Matthews  46:21  

Yeah, one of my early mentors said to me is that a ripened fruit starts to rot, right. So if you ever get to the point where you’re like I’m done, I’m ripe, it’s all over, your next step is to rot. So it’s the idea that you should always be striving to be better and be stronger and to increase your skillset. And what’s interesting is sometimes it doesn’t have to even be in the line of your work, right. There’s other things you could learn how to do, you could pick up a new sport, pick up a new art skill, I learned to play the piano a couple of years back, because I was like, I just need to have something that was, to your point earlier, having some time to myself, that wasn’t business related. So I was taking the time to sit down and learn the piano. And that doesn’t really impact my business in any way. But it does sharpen that skill of learning how to learn and learning how to grow yourself. And it’s a very impactful skill to have.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  47:29  

Yeah, you say that, though. But playing the piano. And being in your creative mode does help you so much more in other aspects of your life, it also gives your brain a rest as well. Because when you’re using the creative side of your brain, you’re also giving your functional side of your brain, a rest and a break. So it does help you in the long run as well. It is a useful tool to have a creative moment for yourself.

 

Richard Matthews  47:53  

Yeah, absolutely. My favorite creative zone is I do videography and photography, stuff with our travels. It’s not really business related. It’s just keeping track of all the cool stuff that we’re doing. And I like sitting down and spending time doing that. And it’s it all goes right back into that I used to as a younger entrepreneur feel like that was a waste of time, to spend time doing things that were just fun, or were just for me or just for my family, and realize that how important those things are to actually being able to sit down and work. When you’ve rested, it’s the whole give yourself permission to play thing we talked about earlier, it goes right back into, I’m currently learning how to do cinematography, and how to do video editing and stuff like that, which again, it probably will have some skills that directly translate into business. But at the same time, that’s not really the point. Sometimes the point is just having the time to recreate having the time to be creative. And to always be learning.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  48:55  

Yeah, absolutely. That’s key.

 

Richard Matthews  48:58  

So so just out of curiosity, what are some of your creative hobbies that you put some of your effort into?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  49:05  

I love going on long walks, I live in the country, and there are so many beautiful walks around me, I love being able to go anywhere. And I feel like my surroundings are always changing with the seasons. So it’s always nice, and it’s always new. So it’s always beautiful in a way. And I also read a lot so I don’t necessarily always read personal development books or business books. Sometimes I’ll just read something that’s fancy or more completely different genre. And I think that helps my brain just turn a little bit switch off a little bit. And I’m also really into like, podcasts about true crime. So I feel like that part is super helpful for me because it means that I get to just think about something completely different and not focus on the business at all. And I think that helps.

 

Richard Matthews  49:58  

Yeah, one of the things that I find really interesting is that is how common it is in the entrepreneurial world to feel badly about reading nonfiction. Right? So like reading fiction, instead of nonfiction, right, we always like, oh, if I have time to read, I should be reading a self help book or a leadership book, or improvement or marketing or something like that. And to sit down and read, just for whatever, something like a Harry Potter or Orson Scott Card, something like that, like that’s a waste of time. And I know I’ve struggled that with myself. And one of the things that I found really interesting is I read a book A long time ago is called the Anthony elephant by Vincent Scotty. And he was talking about how powerful your subconscious is. And the metaphor is that the ant is your conscience, and it drives your subconscious, which is the elephant, right? So the, the ant is actually driving the elephant. And he goes through a whole bunch of things in there. But one of the things that really fascinated me was that your subconscious, is incapable of making a distinction between reality and fiction.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  51:07  

Yeah.

 

Richard Matthews  51:08  

So when you are actually reading a fiction story, you are running those scenarios and those experiences through your mind. And you can learn a lot from those learn from the people and the decisions, whether they turn out good or bad and other things. And I think there’s actually, there’s a lot of benefits to the life skills you learn from reading fiction.

 

Arisha Boyrangee  51:33  

100% agree with that? I think that’s brilliant as well. But yeah, I do love that piece of you can dream up anything. literally, anything is possible.

 

Richard Matthews  51:43  

Yeah, absolutely. So that’s basically a wrap on our interview. But I do have one thing I do at the end of all of my interviews, I call it the hero’s challenge. And I do this as a sort of selfish way to get access to stories I might not otherwise be able to find on my own because we’re always looking for more new interesting stories we can tell here on the hero show. So my question is simple. Do you have someone in your life or in your network that you think has a cool entrepreneurial story? Who are they? first names are fine? And why do you think they should come to share their story with us on this show? First person that comes to mind for you?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  52:19  

Oh, I definitely think it’s Claire, my current mentor, because I think her story of having a really successful business, and she started in New Zealand and having a really successful business over there. And then moving it over to the UK, and moving her business online, many years ago before the pandemic and doing it the long way around. And all of her faults and successes are fascinating to me. And so I definitely recommend her. She’s brilliant.

 

Richard Matthews  52:53  

Awesome. So we’ll reach out after the show and see if we can get an invitation out to Claire to get her on the show. But in comic books, there’s always the crowd of people at the end who are cheering on the acts of heroism of the heroes. So as we close our analogous to that is I want to find out where people can find you in the future where can they light up the bat signal so to speak and say hey, you know what, I would really love to have your help in my life. And I think more importantly than where they can go is who are the right types of people to reach out and say, You know what, I can really use your help. And so with that, where can people find you?

 

Arisha Boyrangee  53:31  

So people that need to reach out or people who feel like there is more to life than what they currently have to the people that think that there is a missing piece or that they need to work on their mindset, whether it’s confidence, or clarity. I literally just finished creating procrastination guide so if you are a procrastinator definitely reach out to me immediately. And I am the coachable you on Facebook and on Instagram and my website is www.thecoachableyou.com

 

Richard Matthews  54:08  

Awesome sounds good. And I love that the the call to action is if you’re a procrastinator reached out to me immediately. It’s ironic. So the coachableyou.com if you are in that space definitely takes time to reach out obviously, you have a lot of good things to help people with. And I guess before we hit the stop record button you have any final words of wisdom for our audience,

 

Arisha Boyrangee  54:32  

Just breathe, no matter what you’re going through. Just breathe, take a moment for yourself. It will all work out in the end.

 

Richard Matthews  54:40  

Awesome, thank you so much for coming on today.