Episode 041 – Angela Marshall

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Richard Matthews  

Hello and welcome back to the HERO Show. 

 

My name is Richard Matthews and I am on the line with 

 

Angela Marshall. Angela, are you there?

 

Angela Marshall  

Yes, I’m here. Hi.

 

Richard Matthews  

Glad to have you here, Angela. For my regular guests 

 

Who know, I travel regularly. I am back in the car again

 

In front of the beach because we have no internet signal 

 

Up at our house. But anyways, what I want to do real quick

 

Is just introduce you, Angela. So people know who you are. 

 

And we’ll get started talking about your story. 

 

So, Angela is a motivational speaker, a professional writer,

 

A columnist, a best selling author, a creative consultant,

 

And an ex-NFL wife, and a business owner of 

 

“In Other Words, By Stone.” She states that writing, reading,

 

Inspiring others participating and at risk outreach programs 

 

Are rewarding life-skills that have empowered her 

 

To positively impact others and constantly encourages her 

 

To elevate her purpose through words, wisdom, and work. 

 

So Angela, what I want you to do for me at right here 

 

At the beginning is tell me a little bit about 

 

What you’re known for now. 

 

Why is it that people reach out to you? 

 

Or what did they hire you for? 

 

What does Angela bring to the world?

 

Angela Marshall  

So Angela Marshall is also known as wise words, woman. 

 

Now that’s a pretty impressive hashtag. But I actually 

 

It kind of just kind of fell in my lap, as far as the ability

 

To be able to positively impact and inspire others. 

 

When coincidentally, I actually was just putting out posts, 

 

Motivational quotes and sayings to help myself. 

 

And so in turn it just turned around in it and it helped others 

 

And they would just reach out more and more and saying, 

 

“Oh my gosh, I was watching a video that you did.”

 

Or “I was listening to your podcast and you just, 

 

You inspired me so much. You helped me throughout the day.”

 

And it just kind of shifted from the wise words woman to 

 

Then me being able to positively inspire and motivate others

 

 To live vicariously through themselves.

 

Richard Matthews  

So what most people hire you for now would be for like for speaking

 

Or for helping them with consulting services?

 

Angela Marshall  

So actually it’s twofold. My business is, “In Other Words, By Stone,”

 

I’m a creative writing consultant because I love words. 

 

And through under that umbrella, I help with BIOS resumes. 

 

I do grant proposals, bids, anything dealing with essays, 

 

Anything dealing with documentation and words. I’m your girl. 

 

So that’s one part of it. And then the second part,

 

Like I mentioned earlier, that just kind of happened 

 

With me being able to uplift others, 

 

which is The Wise Words, Woman, I wrote a book in 2017. 

 

My autobiography and from that book, 

 

Which is the story and life of an ex-NFL wife, 

 

People were asking me, different organizations, were asking me

 

To come and share my life. And just talk a little bit 

 

About my journey and different things that I overcame, 

 

Stumbling blocks into stepping stones. 

 

And that’s how I am afforded the opportunity for people 

 

To reach out and request me 

 

To be a motivational inspirational presenter.

 

Richard Matthews  

Awesome. So this is –  I’m not a sports person. 

 

But I’m sure I’ve got people in the audience who are,

 

“Who is your husband in the NFL?”

 

Angela Marshall  

I was married to Arthur Marshall. 

 

He was a he was a former Denver Bronco and

 

New York Giants, play a wide receiver.

 

Richard Matthews  

So I have probably seen him play, 

 

But I guarantee you, I didn’t recognize him.

 

Angela Marshall  

Absolutely. You know, I jokingly tell people, 

 

He was never the superstar, I was. (laughter)

 

Richard Matthews  

I just, I’m lucky if I can remember how they score points 

 

In football when we watch the Super Bowl once a year, so –

 

Angela Marshall  

Understood, not a problem. And I will tell this secret on the air also.

 

My sport of choice is basketball. I love basketball.

 

I don’t even like football.

 

Richard Matthews  

Ex-NFL wife who doesn’t like football? 

 

Angela Marshall  

Yes, sir. 

 

Richard Matthews  

So let’s talk a little bit about your origin story. 

 

Every hero has an origin of stories, where you started 

 

To realize that you were different, that maybe you have superpowers, 

 

And maybe you could use them to help other people. 

 

That’s where you started to develop or discover the value 

 

You could bring to this world.

 

How did you get on that journey of entrepreneurship?

 

Angela Marshall  

So just I guess it started in 2009, 

 

When I actually joined Facebook, and I just started 

 

Posting these motivational and inspirational quotes and sayings

 

Or just different feelings, but it was always positive affirmations

 

 And confirmations to get through to overcome the obstacles 

 

And to just kind of look at things optimistically as opposed to

 

Seeing the problem, seeing the resolution, I guess, if you would. 

 

And people would just reach out to me and just say that 

 

My post really helped them. So I think it started there. 

 

But I’m beginning to see more and more 

 

That even as a child with my storytelling and with writing, 

 

The ability was always there. And then the ability to speak 

 

Was always there because I would be in these productions, 

 

These plays, or that church school, drama club, 

 

And I was really, really well as you can tell, 

 

I’m very animated and very energized.

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. 

 

Angela Marshall  

So I think it’s just one of those things where it’s always in you, 

 

But we suppress it because we go down this road 

 

That we think we’re supposed to go down or 

 

Because the whole, the world is going down 

 

A different corporate world. And we think that

 

That’s what we’re supposed to do? But it found me 

 

And it tackled me, it pursued me, and here I am today.

 

An entrepreneur, just trying to make a difference 

 

In the world, make an impact, and also utilizing 

 

Every thing that I’ve gone through in my life, 

 

To help other people as well as continuing to help myself.

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. So it’s like the the entrepreneurial bug was there. 

 

And just with the advent of technology and the ability 

 

To get in front of more people, and it blossomed.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right. And it started just from a Facebook business page. 

 

And now I have almost 7000 followers on that page, global. 

 

And it’s just growing and it’s growing.

 

I guess not necessarily snowballing, but it’s just is getting-

 

It’s increasing as it should, because the content is

 

Just very uplifting. One of my models, and my slogans is,

 

I don’t speak or share to impress, I speak to improve, inspire, 

 

And also just to impact, to positively impact people. 

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. So let’s talk about your superpowers.

 

What do you do or build or office role that helps solve problems

 

For other people, the things that you use to slay this world’s villain, 

 

So to speak. If you could narrow down your skillset 

 

As an entrepreneur to one of your superpowers, 

 

What would you say it is?

 

Angela Marshall  

I would say it is the ability to liberate people, making them free.

 

Free of just their own negativity that they have.

 

The doubt that they have, in their mind, different, I guess, 

 

Problems, issues that they may be facing. 

 

Definitely, with all of the societal pressures,

 

One of my largest one is where I teach people 

 

To get off the bench and get in the game of life. 

 

Get off the bench and get in the game 

 

Because you can’t win the game by being a spectator.

 

Richard Matthews  

So basically, getting people past to the things 

 

That are holding them, holding themselves back.

 

Angela Marshall  

On the sideline. That is correct, because for me

 

One of the things that was holding me on the sideline for so long,

 

And not just using that play on words, 

 

Just because my ex husband was an NFL, 

 

I just utilize that sports analogy because it’s the actual truth 

 

Of how I felt and how I feel. But one of the things 

 

That was sidelining me was just depression, anxiety, 

 

Feeling like I wasn’t good enough or that I wasn’t –

 

I didn’t add value to certain things. And I just had to retrain my brain. 

 

And I had to tell myself that I was not going to be a benchwarmer 

 

Anymore in life, just kind of going through the motions. 

 

And I was going to do some things differently. And being able

 

To share my story and share my journey has been,

 

Even though I am a bubbly person, and once that light comes on,

 

Show is on, “Hey, it’s time, we’re good.”

 

But I’m actually a really, really behind the scenes person. 

 

So it’s kind of like a sword, I guess, of sorts. But you know, I just, 

 

I thoroughly enjoy what I do, and I enjoy why I’m doing it. 

 

And I just want people to stop being a spectator in their own lives 

 

And go to being a motivator for them to just really live vicariously 

 

Through themselves. Instead of the eyes of the celebrities

 

Or the magazines, or societal pressures and trends and styles.

 

I want them to just live their life full.

 

Richard Matthews  

That is actually the primary reason 

 

Why I’ve never enjoyed watching sports. Because I always feel 

 

Like if you’re watching the sport, I could just go out 

 

And play this sport. If that’s what I feel. I could actually go 

 

And do the thing instead of watch someone else do the thing.

 

Angela Marshall  

When you tell your mind who you are and what you want, 

 

You can have it. Did you know that?

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. So do you have anything that you noticed,

 

Like a common thread that you know, you notice in your clients

 

Of things that are holding, keeping them on the sidelines?

 

Angela Marshall  

Basically, it’s just their own mind. It’s just like with 

 

All the rest of us. It’s not necessarily what is said 

 

On the outside from – that’s condescending, 

 

And it’s also something that is a drawback. 

 

Of course, if somebody tells you you’re not pretty or 

 

You’re not qualified, or they send you a rejection letter, 

 

Or say no, of course it does, it hurts. But I found that

 

It hurts more when we process it, and then we actually 

 

Start to believe it. So that is the common thread. 

 

The common thread is just the mind, the mental game and the mental-

 

I guess, all the garbage and the junk that we tell ourselves, 

 

Because ultimately, that’s what I’m going to believe. 

 

I’m going to believe the person in the mirror, 

 

The reflection in the mirror, more so, than I do anybody else. 

 

So usually for the people that come to me or that I am packed

 

When I do these different empowerment forums, 

 

Or I am – have the opportunity to grace stages. 

 

The common thread is that mentally we are just doubting ourselves.

 

We’re draining ourselves. we’re so hard on ourselves, 

 

And we need to just be reminded to put on the positives

 

As opposed to the negatives.

 

Richard Matthews  

So it’s that negative self-talk. So what is one of your 

 

Number one tips for changing the self-talk. 

 

The dialogue in your head from being

 

A negative self-talk to being a positive self-talk.

 

Angela Marshall  

It’s kind of like what I just mentioned to you 

 

A few seconds ago, when you tell your mind something it believes you. 

 

So that means that as opposed to whatever you’ve told 

 

Your mind previously, that is not working for you 

 

And you’re not getting the desired result. 

 

You have to reverse it. Period. And it has to be a positive.

 

It has to be something that is going to be uplifting. 

 

That is going to be encouraging, forward, motivate, celebrate,

 

Illuminate and liberate Y-O-U. That’s what it has to be.

 

You got to motivate yourself. You got to celebrate yourself. 

 

You have to illuminate yourself. Make you larger than life. 

 

And I know the world. Everyone says the same thing. 

 

Well, you got to kind of, don’t be egotistical or don’t be vain. 

 

That’s not being vain or being egotistical 

 

When you are celebrating yourself, or you’re motivating yourself 

 

I started this, I guess this way, if you would, 

 

Because you need it. I started this- About two months ago, 

 

Where I exhorted my clients and I exhorted my followers, 

 

“Hey, dote on yourself every now and then.” “Buy yourself a card.”

 

That’s just like, if I were to send Richard a card 

 

And tell you how wonderful you are, how great you are, 

 

Why can’t I do that for Angela? 

 

Because that same uplift and that encouragement, 

 

The inspiration I need for myself sometimes. 

 

So it’s just about reversing it and not having a really, 

 

Really good balance of making sure that 

 

You are taking care of yourself. 

 

The same way that we pour into others. 

 

We need to pour into ourselves like that.

 

Richard Matthews  

One of the things that’s been a big tip for myself

 

When I started picking up how to change yourself talk,

 

A number of years ago, was this idea that 

 

You don’t have to believe it to say it to yourself. 

 

Because part of the exercise of saying it to yourself

 

Is going to help you believe it.

 

Angela Marshall  

If you believe it and see it.

 

Richard Matthews  

And then believing it will start to change your actions, 

 

And you’ll start to become the person that 

 

You are telling yourself that you are.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right because a lot of things for us,

 

It’s not like its gradual and even for myself, I can tell myself,

 

I’m this so I have this, so I have this. And then I can go  on 

 

And I can actually look into my bank account and know that

 

I don’t have it at that particular time. 

 

However, if I’m constantly speaking it. 

 

I’m constantly affirming it. And then I’m putting the action behind it,

 

For it to come into fruition. Eventually, it’s gonna be there.

 

I’m going to place those numbers in on that ATM. 

 

And those commas and dotses, zeroes are gonna be there.

 

Richard Matthews  

They’re gonna come out. Because that reminds me of-

 

I can’t remember which movie it was, 

 

But like, they make a bunch of money, 

 

And then they print it all out, lay it on the bed and roll around in it.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right. I mean, that’s one of the things that

 

I trained on as well is believe it. You got to tell your mind,

 

Constantly tell your mind. 

 

And then once you tell your mind and you start working towards it, 

 

You can actually see it and then you achieve it. You receive it.

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. So I want to flip the card a little bit, 

 

We’ve been talking about superpowers and 

 

Talk about the other side of superpowers, which is your fatal flaw, 

 

Superman had his Kryptonite. Batman wasn’t actually a superhero,

 

He was just really dedicated, and had a lot of money. 

 

So when it comes to growing your business, 

 

Specifically over the last several years, what would you say

 

One of your fatal flaws in growing your business has been? 

 

And more importantly, what have you been doing to overcome 

 

That for other people who struggle with the same thing,

 

Angela Marshall  

I am the teacher and the student. 

 

So for me, that just means the same information that I give

 

To others and suggestions and exhortations, 

 

I constantly have to turn it on myself. I am an over thinker. 

 

So what that means is for me, I am critical. 

 

And then I’m also very constructive. I can be creative, 

 

I can be crushing with the same thoughts that run 

 

Through my mind about certain things, 

 

Especially when it comes to not receiving I guess.

 

With the rejection letters from time to time, 

 

Or the nose or the closed doors, or someone may say, 

 

“Well, no, I don’t think our content actually fits our show.” 

 

It is, it kind of permeates your, I guess your ability 

 

At that particular time. But I have to run through 

 

The same exercises that I teach my clients and

 

I teach my followers and the audiences or anybody 

 

That I speak to, I do the exact same thing. 

 

That’s why I tell them all the time, 

 

Don’t look at me as a person who has it all together,

 

Like I’ve arrived, and I’m coming to you 

 

And I’m just talking to you because this is what you need.

 

It’s actually what I need also. So that is my kryptonite, quote unquote.

 

It’s worse because my brain never stops. It’s  constantly filled 

 

With all of these different things, whether it’s,

 

“Aww, should I have worn that?” “Should I have said that?” 

 

“Should I have done this?” “Should I have done that,” 

 

But I am getting a whole lot better at really in 

 

So you know, I have my audience, I have my followers 

 

And I have my clients to thank for that because 

 

As I am a pouring into them, also pouring into myself. 

 

And that’s one of the things that I really love about 

 

What I do is just the opportunity to be able to share

 

With them because with the release to them.

 

“Oh my god, it’s making me so free.” 

 

I mean, if I had known that I could have done this 

 

When I was in high school, when I was at struggling,

 

Struggling teenager, believing everything that people said 

 

And you know whatnot? I would have done this a long time ago. 

 

So it’s not a walk or bed of roses for me. It’s not a walk

 

Down a yellow brick road, saying that just because 

 

I’m this motivational, this great,inspirational person. 

 

That I don’t have any problems. I don’t have any issues. 

 

Not at all my words, they turn on me. 

 

They turn on me constantly. But I’m getting 

 

A lot better at overcoming those stumbling blocks 

 

And turning them into stepping stones.

 

Richard Matthews  

So I’m just curious, I can be the same way with a self-talk. 

 

Does it come mostly for you at night when you’re 

 

Laying in bed on the pillow before you fall asleep?

 

Angela Marshall  

Yes, Richard. It does. And it’s so crazy because I wouldn’t –

 

I have had the most amazing day. I’ve had people just like today, 

 

I read an email from a young lady. 

 

I don’t know her from Adam, tooting my horn. 

 

And I’m not saying like, I need that assurance and 

 

That affirmation, but it is really nice to know that 

 

Your words and your actions 

 

Richard Matthews  

Are impacting other people.

 

Angela Marshall  

You’re impacting and strangers, and I have no idea who she is. 

 

So I get those all the time. I get of course, 

 

The love from my family, from my friends that

 

“You’re great, Angela.”  “You’re this.” “You’re that.” 

 

And they surround me, they impact me. I think, I turned it 

 

One time that – A lot of times because I just mentioned 

 

Earlier in the show, I said, 

 

“I teach people to get off the sideline and get in the game.”

 

Well, sometimes, I sideline myself, sometimes I put myself

 

But my motivators, my circle, my links, my connectors, 

 

They want to allow me to stay there. They want to- 

 

They won’t ever allow me to stay on the sideline. 

 

But this brain of mine, that is probably my kryptonite. 

 

It is a blessing and a burden. Because the worst is

 

They just don’t stop, they haunt me. And then they help me. 

 

They humble me. And then they honor me. 

 

So it’s like, it’s a constant battle between good and evil. 

 

Poor Angela, but good always wins.

 

Richard Matthews  

So let’s talk about your common enemy. 

 

So this is specifically in relation to your clients. 

 

So when you bring someone on as a new client, 

 

If you could remove one thing from their life 

 

That you know, you could just 10X the results for them super quick,

 

If you could wave your magic wand and change that, 

 

What would that be?

 

Angela Marshall  

I think that would probably be, again, just their mindset.

 

Being able to just really pumped into them 

 

All of the great things about them. I think, with this one 

 

Particular client that I have. She’s very, 

 

She’s struggling with letting go, 

 

I just struggle with letting go awesome. 

 

But with the whole letting go thing, I mean, it was just, 

 

No matter what I said that would propel her to the present.

 

She wanted the present and the future, 

 

She wanted to stay stuck behind her. 

 

And so I was trying to get her to change her paradigm, 

 

I was trying to get her to change her vision 

 

For what she needed to do. And it just that whole letting go. 

 

But I think if we could just take like the Men in Black,

 

If I had a pen and I could just press it in front of my clients and myself- 

 

Richard Matthews  

And shock their mind into a into the thinking properly.

 

Angela Marshall  

And it’s like, Bam! You’re positive. But I understand also how – 

 

I think we need those things too, I think we need the downs 

 

And the valleys, and we need the lows in order 

 

To continue to strengthen us. I think that’s very important. 

 

And that’s one of the things why I don’t – I’m not hard on people 

 

Because I struggle with a lot of those same things also. 

 

So I understand the journey, I really do. But if I could do have a pen 

 

Or have some little gadget and just say, 

 

Okay, let me put it right up to your brain so that 

 

You can know how fabulous and how awesome you are.

 

Despite the issues, despite the -everything that 

 

You’re going through in life, that’s probably 

 

What I would ask for, a gadget so that I could do that.

 

Richard Matthews  

So you can magically get the positive thinking. 

 

So I have a theory I want I want to explore with you a little bit.

 

My my theory is this, it has to do with – 

 

You mentioned we have to have some of the negative experiences

 

And negative thoughts so we can appreciate the – 

 

And strengthen the other side. One of the theories that I have 

 

Is that it comes from, I’m a photographer on the side, 

 

Like as a hobby. And when you’re looking for really interesting shots, 

 

Generally you’re looking for contrast light and dark. 

 

And you’re looking for contrast and textures smooth and rough. 

 

And like you you’re looking for different contrast pieces

 

All the way around. 

 

Angela Marshall  

Okay. 

 

Richard Matthews  

And one of the things I’ve – because that makes interest. 

 

And the more interest you have, the more you like the picture. 

 

And as a person, the same kind of thing happens. 

 

If you have- If your life was just all straight up hill,

 

All going towards wonderful, happy things, 

 

And you never had struggles.You wouldn’t be interesting. 

 

You wouldn’t have an interesting life.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s correct. And that’s what makes you unique.

 

Richard Matthews  

Is that we have the contrast between the good and the bad, 

 

And the light, and the dark, and the rough, and the smooth, 

 

And it’s what makes you interesting. And what makes your story

 

Worth hearing, worth listening to and worth being a friend with. 

 

And lets you help other people. And I think there’s a lot to that. 

 

So we do need to learn how to overcome the rough areas 

 

Of the dark areas. So we can continue up the thing, 

 

But we wouldn’t be who we are without them.

 

Angela Marshall  

Right. So I mean we can let’s just take it from your show 

 

As far as superheroes and heroes show without the Joker, 

 

And the Riddler and the Penguin, what would Batman truly be?

 

Richard Matthews  

Just a rich guy with cool toys.

 

Angela Marshall  

Well, we don’t know. Because I mean, did he get him based on 

 

Because he’s super? So, even though in the moment

 

That I’m facing that villain, which is usually this right here. 

 

I think that even though I don’t enjoy the process, the progress,

 

The progress at the end of the process is well worth it. 

 

It really is. Because one thing that I’ve noticed is that 

 

Every level, every dimension in my life, the problems intensify. 

 

The issues intensify. The negativity in my brain, it intensifies. 

 

But when I look back over everything, or I’m reading my journals, 

 

Or I’m just kind of replaying, reflecting certain things in my life

 

Over time. I am, I’ve grown. I’ve grown so much. 

 

And that’s an amazing thing because that’s one of the things

 

That I plan on and that I set out to do often is just to make sure

 

That I’m growing and that I’m evolving. I don’t ever want to stay stuck. 

 

I’m this complacent person. I call myself the Superwoman. 

 

And I don’t ever want to feel like I’m this complacent. 

 

But I also have Super Friends. So I encourage all of my friends 

 

All the time, like “Hey, we’re not in this life, to just be alone, 

 

To not connect, to not lead, to not be in service or

 

Help each other. So we always have to remember 

 

That Superwoman, or Superman has Super Friends, 

 

And we have to utilize them. 

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. So if your common enemy is the thing

 

That you’re fighting against, the negative self-talk 

 

That you fight against in your clients lives, your driving force,

 

The other side of that is what you fight for. 

 

Just like Spider Man fights to save New York or 

 

Batman fights to save Gotham, or Google fights and 

 

Categorize all the world’s information, 

 

What is it that you fight for?

 

Angela Marshall  

So I am fighting for people to understand, as well as myself,

 

How to convert downs in life to wins. That’s it. 

 

I want them to understand that I can’t do anything about 

 

What life may throw at me or what other people may throw at me 

 

Or take it one step further, what I may even throw at myself

 

Because a lot of stuff, I get into on my own, Richard.

 

I’m just going to be honest. Or I walk into on my own. 

 

But from the standpoint of being able to understand 

 

That there is definitely a solution. 

 

I don’t want to be a part of the problem. 

 

And I don’t want them to stay stuck on what the problem is, 

 

What is the solution? What is the resolution? 

 

How do we convert those downs in life to win? 

 

How do we get you your fourth and one, 

 

Your fourth and long, Your fourth and go? 

 

How do I get you in that in zone for the win?

 

How do we do that? And that’s what I’m interested in. 

 

And that’s why I wrote my book. That’s why I tell my story. 

 

And I tell it from that standpoint, because I mean, 

 

It’s just such a – I’ll tell you, the main reason is it gives me 

 

A unique and rarity as a female to come from sports analogies 

 

When speaking empowerment. So that’s what makes me different. 

 

That’s one of my superpowers too.

 

Richard Matthews  

Being able to handle the sports metaphors when you’re teaching people. 

 

That’s good, because I’m terrible at that. 

 

Angela Marshall  

But you understand them though, right?

 

Richard Matthews  

I do understand them. I know what a fourth, and fourth and one is

 

And a fourth and down like I actually know what that means. 

 

So talk a little bit about some of the tools that you use 

 

To make this happen. Your heroes tool belt. 

 

Maybe you have a big magical hammer like Thor or 

 

A bullet proof vest, like your neighborhood police officer. 

 

Or maybe just really love how Evernote 

 

Helps you organize your thoughts? 

 

What are some of the tools that you use 

 

Maybe their mental exercises, or the things you do

 

On a regular basis, or actual physical tools you use? 

 

What are some of the things you use 

 

To help grow your business or do the work that you do?

 

Angela Marshall  

So it’s three things; one is meditation, oh my gosh, 

 

If I had known about meditation a long time ago, 

 

I would have definitely would have incorporated that 

 

Into my daily routine and habit 

 

Because it has helped me tremendously. It tells me 

 

When I need to disconnect, when I need to reset, reboot, 

 

And then also its calmed me down a lot for me to be able to face

 

The ins and outs of my business and growing my business,

 

Expanding my business. So meditation would be one. 

 

The other thing, which is important; reading. 

 

Reading lots of – absorbing a lot of knowledge 

 

From different authors, from different perspectives. 

 

And I don’t just read self-help books like a lot of people, 

 

I guess they would think well, your motivator, 

 

You read or your inspiration. That’s all, I’m really eclectic, 

 

And I’m all over the place. And I can, I grab certain things

 

From any genre, whether it’s music or books on, or art.

 

I mean, I just, I just love the difference. 

 

But then I also love how a lot of those things unite us also. 

 

So it will be meditation, reading. 

 

And then the third thing is just loving people. 

 

I truly love people. I’m always like them, but I love them. 

 

So I’m default where I’m wanting to definitely be in service 

 

And just to help them as much as possible. 

 

So those are the three tools that I use 

 

The main principles when I am doing my business plans,

 

My proposals or trying to reaffirm my ‘why.’ 

 

Trying to get through the struggles, though. 

 

Maybe being in the ray one day, and then being back in the black. 

 

Two weeks later, or whatnot. Those are my three principles that I utilize.

 

Richard Matthews  

I got my audio cut off. So motivation. So what did you call it?

 

Angela Marshall  

Meditation.

 

Richard Matthews  

Meditation. There we go. Meditation, reading and loving others. 

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right.

 

Richard Matthews  

That last one.

 

Angela Marshall  

Not always liking them but loving them.

 

Richard Matthews  

Not always liking them. So my default like,

 

Someone cuts you off on the road. 

 

One of the things I tried to do in my head is think to myself, 

 

Like, “Oh, that person is probably taking 

 

Their pregnant wife to the hospital.” Lke, that’s probably 

 

What’s going on, you just give them, aggressive benefit of the doubt.

 

Angela Marshall  

Because you really don’t know. And I’ll tell you this, 

 

When I was younger, I used to speed, because I thought 

 

I just had to get everywhere fast. So now if someone cuts 

 

In front of me, or they’re like zooming past because

 

I may be going a little slower than what the speed limit allows, 

 

Or whatnot. I don’t even pay any attention. 

 

I used to and I used to be like, trying to go back 

 

And forth with them. But now I’m like, 

 

Okay, I remember those days, not a problem. 

 

You get my age, you’re just kind of cruising in life also. Not a big deal.

 

Richard Matthews  

Or once you realize that no matter how fast you go, 

 

The next stop lights gonna stop you and 

 

You’re going to be sitting at the same stoplight with that person.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right. That is correct.

 

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Richard Matthews  

So let’s talk a little bit about your own personal heroes. 

 

Frodo had Gandalf. Luke had Obi Wan Kenobi.

 

Robert Kiyosaki and his Rich Dad, were some of your heroes. 

 

Were they real life mentors? Were they speakers or authors?

 

Or maybe they were peers who were just a few years ahead of you, 

 

And how important were they to what

 

You’ve accomplished so far in your business?

 

Angela Marshall  

So I will say that my main personal superhero is my auntie.

 

My Aunt Deborah Pollard. She has just been a huge 

 

Not only as supporter and encourager, 

 

But watching her because I’m big on, 

 

You don’t necessarily have to pay attention to what people say.

 

You pay attention to what they do, and how they act 

 

And how they present themselves. 

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. 

 

Angela Marshall  

And when I say that she exudes every temperament of a superhero. 

 

When it’s time to fight, we’re gonna fight. 

 

And we’re going to fight for our place, fight for our power, 

 

Fight for our position when it’s time to be compassionate, 

 

When it’s time to be loving. When it’s time to be giving. 

 

Just, I don’t know, her giving is, it’s so great. 

 

And it’s so large, like, I don’t even think in my lifetime

 

If she died and came back three times. 

 

I will be able to give as much as she’s given to everybody,

 

Not just to me. But then the lessons

 

That she’s taught me over the years, being compassionate, 

 

Being forgiving, being forbearing everything that would, 

 

I guess, encompass being a true superhero. 

 

She has just been, she’s been amazing. 

 

She’s been amazing to watch.

 

Even in times where I know that there’s a little, I don’t know, friction, 

 

I guess, between her and somebody else

 

But still being able to love them to be able to do for them.

 

I’m not there yet. Can’t do that. But watching her

 

Has been a pure, I mean, it’s just been a pleasure. 

 

And it’s definitely someone who I want to model after. 

 

So one in my personal superhero is definitely my Aunt …

 

Richard Matthews  

How has she impacted your business specifically?

 

Angela Marshall  

Just in dealing day-to-day life with whether it’s my clients,

 

Or like I mentioned before, being able to handle rejection,

 

Being able to handle those, being able to just stand 

 

And fight another day, because it’s not like what I do, 

 

Everybody’s just throwing money at me and

 

They’re requesting me to speak and they understand what I’m doing. 

 

And they’re giving me business and they’re supporting me,

 

But being able to just be strengthened mentally, 

 

Being strengthened spiritually, emotionally, physically, 

 

All of those areas. Just watching her in her day-to-day walk 

 

And how she conducts her life and conducts her business. 

 

I mean, it is like a direct pour into more direct, like, I’ve got this. 

 

This outlet, this cord, where I’m plugged into her. 

 

And I’m really trying to model myself and my path 

 

After a lot of the things, a lot of the lessons that she’s taught me, 

 

So she’s one. But I gotta say this because my main superhero 

 

is my eight year old. I’m sorry, he’s nine.

 

Now my nine year old grandson, Dion Murray. 

 

He is like a true superhero. And he’s like, literally, 

 

he loves them all Batman, Superman, Tommy Jerry. 

 

I mean, he loves all the cartoon characters. 

 

And there are some other superheroes that are out 

 

And I have no idea who they are. But I just when I keep him,

 

I watched him. I’m gonna tell you why he’s my superhero. 

 

This is a kid who is short in stature for his age. 

 

But he plays sports with the heart, literally, 

 

Of maybe an NFL player, or NBA player. 

 

You cannot tell him that he’s not great. 

 

You can’t tell him that he’s not good at what he does.

 

And then the main thing that I admire him for is anytime 

 

There’s bullying situations, he has the mentality of –

 

It does not bother him. You could talk about his shoes, 

 

His clothes, his nunu … You can say anything to Dion. 

 

And he does not care. He does not let it affect him. 

 

He does not let it impact him. He just is an amazing kid. 

 

And that’s why he is definitely my superhero.

 

Richard Matthews  

That’s awesome. I have a I have a nine year old son as well. 

 

And  he’s a crack up, man. They’re fun at that age. 

 

And they’re just so smart. And so if they’re into something,

 

They’re into it, like all the way. There’s no halfway into something.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right. That is correct.

 

I love his tenacity. He’s just amazing. He’s an amazing kid

 

That has me as a – almost 48 year old. He’s taught me a lot.

 

Richard Matthews  

Mine’s not into sports. He’s into falconry. 

 

And he’s wanted to be a Falconer since he was three years old, 

 

And just the other day he was telling me, “Dad,-” 

 

Because he can be a falconer, he can start his training at 12.

 

And his birthday is coming up. So he’s like, “I’ve got two years, 

 

Two weeks and four days until I could start my falconry training.” 

 

I was like, Oh, we’ve gotten to the point where we’re counting days.

 

Angela Marshall  

Well, he knows what he wants, and he’s anticipating it. 

 

And that’s half the battle.

 

Richard Matthews  

And I’ve been trying to push him towards some entrepreneurship stuff. 

 

And I actually just had another client of mine who is a Falconer

 

And know someone who uses falconry as a business.

 

They do – What do they call it? Oh, there’s a word for it. 

 

I remember what it’s called. But when birds come by and eat your fruit, 

 

You can use Falcons to patrol the area and keep the stuff off 

 

Like the commercial fruit. And the guy has like 300 birds, 

 

And he’s got staff and teach you things. I was like, 

 

Look here, you can combine your passion for falconry with a business

 

That actually serves other people. So he’s got thinking

 

Wheels are going in his head.

 

Angela Marshall  

That’s right, keep them prime.

 

Richard Matthews  

So let’s bring it home for our listeners a little bit 

 

And talk about your guiding principles. 

 

What are the top one or two principles or actions 

 

You use regularly today that contribute to your success 

 

And influence. Ones that maybe you wish you knew 

 

When you started out your hero’s journey?

 

Angela Marshall  

Let’s see, I think the first one will probably be-

 

Here’s one, I’m not being afraid to ask for help. 

 

So in certain situations, I always have to remind myself

 

Tthat even though I know a lot, I don’t know everything. 

 

So being able to reach out to other subject matter experts to say,

 

“Hey, I want to get better in this area, I want to do this,

 

 I want to do that aligning the past.” That’s one of the principles

 

That probably was the hardest for me als because

 

I never wanted to show like a sign of weakness. 

 

But I had to, again, retrain my brain that because you don’t know 

 

Or because you want to get better at something 

 

And someone else’s better, doesn’t mean that it’s a sign of weakness.

 

It just means I need to latch on to Richard,

 

Because I need to know how to do XYZ, and he does it really well. 

 

And I’m going to make sure that I connect and that I link up

 

And I align with him. So that I can be great at it too.

 

I may be good at it. But I want to be great 

 

And to go from great to excellent. And most of the time, 

 

I think that’s a principle that gets lost to life. 

 

Just being afraid to say I don’t know, yet to ask for help or 

 

That I don’t know, that is, “Oh my gosh,”

 

Because again, like we don’t want people to think that we’re weak. 

 

And then I’ll tell you another one being a true giver. 

 

Because I think that when I first started out, or I know that when

 

I first started on this journey, I didn’t really understand 

 

The whole principle of give and it will be given unto you. 

 

So helping other people. Like for instance,

 

Today I’m sitting on your show, I have this amazing, 

 

Some apparel that is from a sports company. 

 

So one of the things that I do, whether I’m on the stage, 

 

Or I do, I’m doing podcasts or radio shows 

 

Where I’m actually appearing, is I promote other people. 

 

So like they send me t shirts, they send me apparel, 

 

Different things that that will help other people to get visibility 

 

That will get noticed, so that they can – 

 

Promoting their brand and their business. 

 

And I will say this, by me doing that it has helped 

 

And opened up a lot of doors for me, 

 

Just by being a giver of sorts, or by not being afraid 

 

To allow someone else’s light to shine. 

 

So those are two of the things that has truly helped me,

 

Being able to ask for help, or just knowing that I don’t know, 

 

And I need to link arms with someone 

 

So that I can get that next elevation in my life, 

 

And then not being able to promote other people

 

Even when it’s not my time. I go to other speaking events, 

 

Speaking engagements, 

 

I help other people even behind the scenes. I’m talking about

 

Full putting on tablecloth, dressing up chairs, 

 

Doing mic checks, and whatever. And I’m not even the speaker. 

 

And that’s okay, because that’s not my time. It’s time for me 

 

To be in service to somebody else. So those are 

 

Two principles that early on, if I had adopted them, 

 

Which again, I’ve never been a selfish person. But it I will say 

 

That starting my business, I thought it was all about me. 

 

But it’s not. It’s all about others. And it’s all about 

 

Being a service to others. It’s about impacting, inspiring 

 

And improving the lives of others. And in turn because

 

 I’m doing that, it’s just is heaping itself is coming back 

 

To me full circle. So those are two things.

 

Richard Matthews  

Those are two really powerful principles that I hope 

 

People really pick up on. One of my – I really liked the first one,

 

Aasking for help. And you realize that as you become 

 

A better entrepreneur, it becomes less, asking for help and 

 

Realizing where your limits are, and where you’re going 

 

To hear other people and building a team to fill in your gaps. 

 

And that’s the evolution of that. And you start realizing, 

 

You get up to some of the big businesses, 

 

That’s what they’re masters of. They’re masters of just putting 

 

The teams together and realizing that like that’s really 

 

Where the game is headed. You go from a soloprenuer 

 

Into running a larger organization. And the second one,

 

That one, it’s so subtle, and I don’t know, 

 

Most people I don’t think see that. And obviously, 

 

The first giving others, that’s actually a scriptural quote 

 

From from Christ. I always thought of that as, not like a-

 

It’s not an admonition from our Creator, to live this way.

 

What he was doing, and pretty much the entire sermon 

 

On the mount is to lay out, this is the way the world works. 

 

It’s ike the baseline rules. Like you have gravity, 

 

If you jump off the mountain, you’re going to fall down. 

 

Like, that’s gravity and gravity is a thing. And if you give unto others,

 

It’ll be given back to you. It’s just a foundational principle

 

Of how the world works. And you don’t even have to be giving, 

 

You don’t have to have like the right mindset, even. 

 

But if you deserted people, it comes back.

 

Angela Marshall  

it comes back.

 

Richard Matthews  

That’s just the way the world works.

 

Angela Marshall  

So I found those two principles to be very, very lucrative, 

 

Very helpful. And not just, from a monetary standpoint, 

 

Or like, I’m just giving just so, “Oh, I can be giving too.” No.

 

I mean, that’s in my spirit. It’s just a personality, it’s my character

 

It’s who I am anyway. But I found that as I’m growing my business,

 

A lot of times, it’s not really about me, even though I’m the one 

 

Telling my story in life of an ex NFL wife.

 

I’m the one sharing and I’m doing different things

 

From my creative writing consultant side. And I’m helping people 

 

They may be paying me for service or for skills that I have. 

 

But for the most part is just about truly, truly helping 

 

Someone else get what they want in life from a personal side

 

Or professional side. And Either way, it’s win. It’s a win. 

 

And I just enjoy those so much. I really do.

 

Richard Matthews  

Absolutely. I agree with you completely. So, last thing we do 

 

On the show. I do this every time. It’s something I call

 

The Hero Challenge. Hero Challenge is really simple. 

 

Do you have someone in your life or in your network 

 

That you think has a cool entrepreneurial story? 

 

Who are they? First names are fine. 

 

And why do you think they should come share their 

 

Story on the HERO Show?

 

Angela Marshall  

That would be my friend, Jennifer Howard.

 

Of Howard sweets and treats, Catering and More. 

 

She has just really illuminated as far as her business 

 

And going through the struggles and the waves 

 

And all of that with her business. And she’s persevered.

 

She’s persevered through it all. And so I think that 

 

She will be a matter of fact, I know that she would be 

 

An amazing hero superhero for your show.

 

Richard Matthews  

Awesome, we will reach out afterwards, see if we can find 

 

A way to connect with her and get her to come 

 

On the show and share her story. But for now, 

 

I want to find out where people can find you. 

 

If they’re looking to either hire you as a speaker or 

 

Read your book or maybe bring you on as a consultant. 

 

Where can they find you? And then more importantly, 

 

Who are the right type of people to reach out?

 

Angela Marshall  

Okay, so demographics for me will be anyone who is desiring 

 

For the first part for motivational inspirational presenter, 

 

Anyone who’s desiring, empowering, inspirational uplift. 

 

That would be, you can reach out to me through

 

My website https://www.inotherwordsbystone.com/

 

Or you can just Google Angela Marshall, Augusta, Georgia,

 

And all of the links to request me, reserved me, 

 

Information about me, you’ll be able to see those also 

 

I’m also on every social media outlet. So you can do a little research 

 

Behind the scenes research, see some videos, some footage, 

 

Different things that I’ve done over and through two years 

 

Since I started out on this entrepreneur. 

 

As far as being a motivational and inspirational presenter. 

 

And then from the creative writing side, 

 

Anyone who is desiring a resume, you need to create it, 

 

You want to update it, you need to buy, you need electronic 

 

Or media press kit, or you just want some consult 

 

And as far as standard operating procedures, 

 

Anything dealing with that, those would be –

 

I deal with private client from the private sector side as well as 

 

Just the city or government as a whole because 

 

I have clients with that too. And I’m also a ghost writer, 

 

I am writing, helping a professor here.

 

Locally in Augusta, Georgia area to write his autobiography.

 

So those demographics will be anyone meeting 

 

Documentation consult. 

 

This https://www.inotherwordsbystone.com/ or 

 

You can just Google Angela Marshall, George or 

 

Just hit me up on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, 

 

IG, I’m everywhere, Richard, I’m everywhere.

 

Richard Matthews  

So that’s all wonderful before I repeat some of that 

 

For our audience. I have one question. 

 

If you’re ghost writing an autobiography, 

 

Doesn’t that make it a biography?

 

Angela Marshall  

That is correct. However, since I’m not being mentioned

 

In anything, I’m just going to sell to him because so it’s twofold. 

 

You have some people that will give you the credit 

 

That will say that it was written by Angela Marshall

 

And if it was something that I really wanted to have some –

 

Take credit for, I could probably negotiate that but because

 

I’m going to be totally sound as if he wrote it, then that’s why it’s –

 

Richard Matthews  

I was just teasing because it cracked me up a little bit.

 

I was like, wait an autobiography means he wrote it. 

 

But if she’s ghostwriting? Doesn’t that –

 

Angela Marshall  

He’s paying me to write it and then go away silently. (laughter)

 

Richard Matthews  

Nice.

 

So https://www.inotherwordsbystone.com/

 

Where they can find you.

 

Angela Marshall  

In Other Words. 

 

Richard Matthews  

In Other Words, okay, there. 

 

https://www.inotherwordsbystone.com/ 

 

Is where they can find you. I absolutely think if you’re listening, 

 

You need motivational speakers, 

 

You should reach out to Angela, 

 

I think you’d be fun to get on more stages.

 

Angela Marshall  

I’m ready. I stay ready that’s for sure.

 

Richard Matthews  

Awesome. And thank you so much for coming on the show.

 

Really appreciated having the conversation with you today. 

 

And again, if you’re looking to hire someone, 

 

Get some help with your words. Definitely reach out to Angela. 

 

Thank you. Have a great day. Angela. 

 

Angela Marshall  

Thank you so much, Richard. I appreciate it.