Episode 065 – Lucy Liu
Welcome to another episode of The HERO Show. I am your host Richard Matthews, (@AKATheAlchemist) and you are listening to episode #65 with Lucy Liu – How to Live a Truly Happy, Fulfilled, and Meaningful Life for High-Achieving Women.
Lucy Liu is a certified life coach, women empowerment workshop facilitator, and host of her weekly podcast The Lucy Liu Show.
Here’s just a taste of what we talked about today:
- Working on our inner self will reflect a positive transformation to business.
- Decades of self-development unlocked Lucy’s ability to support herself and get her through the lows of life.
- The skill set needed to become a successful entrepreneur.
- Don’t think about the competition. Don’t worry about what others are doing. Focus on your values and what you can bring to the table.
- How Lucy rediscovered her confidence after years of people mistaking her for a hollywood celebrity prior to meeting with her.
- Fatal flaw: ambition.
- Learn to manage your fears so that it cannot hold you back.
- When you don’t see the negatives, when you look at the positives, you find new opportunities that you wouldn’t have otherwise found.
- It’s a good place to be when you have an idea of what you want to do and what’s important to you.
- The version of success looks different for everyone. So, you just have to know what your meaning of success looks like.
- You want to feel that positive energy. You want to keep that momentum. It’s so much easier to keep the momentum going
- Journal Writing
- Google Calendar
The HERO Challenge
Today on the show, Lucy Liu challenged Karli Kershaw to be a guest on The HERO Show. Lucy thinks that Karli is a fantastic interview because she is very inspirational. Karli is a transformational coach and yoga teacher. Karli has been featured on The Lucy Liu Show and Lucy just adores her.
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With that… let’s get to listening to this week’s episode…
– Heroes are an inspiring group of people. Every one of them from the larger than life comic book heroes you see on the big silver screen to the everyday heroes that let us live the privileged lives we do. Every hero has a story to tell. The doctor saving lives at your local hospital. The war veteran down the street who risked his life for our freedom. The police officers and fire fighters who risk their safety to ensure ours. Every hero is special, and every story worth telling. But there is one class of heroes that I think is often ignored. The entrepreneur, the creator, the producer, the ones who look at the problems in this world and think to themselves, you know what, I can fix that. I can help people and I can make a difference. Then, they go out and do exactly that by creating a new product or introducing a new service. Some go on to change the world, others make a world of difference to their customers. Welcome to the Hero Show. Join us as we pull back the masks of the world’s finest heropreneurs and learn the secrets to their powers, their success and their influence so you can use those secrets to attract more sales, make more money, and experience more freedom in your business. I’m your host Richard Matthews and we are on in three, two, one. Hello, and welcome back to The Hero Show. My name is Richard Matthews and I’m on the line today with special guest Lucy Liu. Lucy are you there?
– Absolutely. I’m so honored to be here. Thank you for having me, Richard.
– Awesome. So glad to have you here. Lucy, you’re joining us from L.A. And for those of you who follow us around in our travels, we’re still on the Southwest coast of Oregon freezing our tushies off up here, but we’re headed back down south to where Lucy is. What’d you say it was like 82 degrees there today?
– Yes, loving it.
– Well, you can make everyone else in the country jealous about the southern California weather. So, what I want to do real quick is introduce you so our guests know who you are and then we’ll get in to talk about your story. So, Lucy is a certified life coach, women empowerment workshop facilitator, and host of your own weekly podcast called The Lucy Liu Show. You were born in China, raised in the city of Los Angeles. And you have a deep ambitious desire for success in life and to finish school sooner. So, you dropped out of high school as a straight A student after your sophomore year, graduated from UCLA with Bachelor’s in Economics. You had plans to become a financial advisor. You did the Hollywood lifestyle. Chose love over your career. Moved to Taiwan. You’ve been traveling it says here for 12 years. Is that right?
– Yes, I love traveling.
– So, what is it that you do now for your business. What is it that people come to you for? What is your primary business?
– So, basically I help high achieving women in life transitions. I help them get unstuck, beat overwhelm, seek clarity, together we set new goals and help them live a more fulfilled life. Right. The basic is to survive, but I want my clients to thrive. And I actually personally transformed my own life from feeling overstressed, burnout, overwhelm, you name it I’ve been there. That was at one point of my life. And now I truly feel that I live a true happy, joyful, fulfilled, and very mindful life, and I want that for all other women. So, that’s where I’m at. And I hope that I get to inspire other women to do that. So, it’s my passion to help these business owners, mothers, other wives, sisters, to help them rewrite their life stories.
– And you do that as a life coach?
– Yes, and I think when we work on our inner self, when we work on our life, actually their business also transforms. We usually see results also directly reflected into their business.
– Awesome. So, do you work mostly one-on-one or do you do one to many like groups? Do you do stage talks? How do you generally deliver?
– Currently, I’m mostly working with my clients on a one-to-one basis. For 2020 I will introduce more courses and group coaching programs. But I hold my workshops virtually.
– Okay, that’s really cool. So, before we get too far into the business stuff, I do want to touch a little bit on the travel since we both travel quite a lot. You mentioned in your bio that you’ve been traveling Asia for 12 or 13 years. What kind of travel do you do?
– Just for leisure, for myself. When I did work in Taiwan, I worked for my husband’s family business, so we had vendors out in China, so we did travel a bit throughout China to visit vendors and along the way we did travel for personal reasons. If I think back at those times, one eye opening trip was obviously for me was to Cambodia.
– Cambodia. I’ve been to Cambodia.
– Yeah, tomb raider.
– Actually, I don’t think we made it to Cambodia. We were on the edge of Laos and Cambodia in Thailand because they wouldn’t let us go over the border, but we were able to go up to the border. We were bringing supplies to people up there. It was kinda cool.
– That was very memorable for me because we saw the locals. They were living on the lake. And the lake was very muddy. They would shower in the lake. And they would drink water out of the lake. It was like their whole life, their whole family. You would see these little tiny huts on top of these rivers and lakes, and they were very muddy and their whole family would be there. They just basically cook, eat, they live their whole life out of those huts. So, that was very eye opening for me. I just feel like us Americans, honestly, have so, so, so much to be grateful for for everything that we have.
– Yeah, yeah. I remember when we were in Thailand on that trip, we got to go into one of the little Thai villages just outside of Chiang Mai. It was a neat little village that, I don’t know, it was probably about the size the of like an RV park here in the U.S., but it’s all these little huts and they had a cool little hill and a little sanctuary and whatnot that they had there. One of the most beautiful, picturesque places I’ve ever been, but their whole life was lived inside this little town there. It was really cool. But it definitely opens your eyes to the blessings we have here in America.
– Absolutely. So, we have to get out of our comfort zone sometimes.
– Yeah, yeah. I really look forward to doing some more travel in Asia and around there. It’s a very colorful, bright cultures over there. So, we’re still exploring the U.S., but one of our next steps is to look around and start traveling to other countries more. We’ll get there eventually. So, my next question for you is about your origin story. We talk on the show all the time everyone here has their origin story. It’s where you started to realize that you were different. That maybe you had super powers and maybe you could use them to help other people. How did this come about for you? How did you become an entrepreneur? And what was that transition like?
– Absolutely. I think when I went to Taiwan it was to marry my husband. At the time I’d never been to Taiwan. I don’t have a single family member there. I didn’t have any friends, and we just worked for his parents, for his family business, where basically we’re just always working. So, my friends didn’t understand me. They’re like, “Lucy, how do you do it?” How do you survive without support? Because a lot of times we’re always wanting support. Support and validation from your family, from your friends, from whoever you’re around. And I just felt like that’s when I started realizing that I was different. I feel like I have the super power to support myself and get myself through the lows of life. But of course that took time. It took a decade of personal development. When I had my business after I left the family business, when I started my own business, my customers were always interested to talk to me because I’m always giving them insights. So, I’ve only been formally coaching for a year. However, I feel like I’ve been unofficially coaching for a long time just as a matter of doing it because I’m always giving advice. People come to me for advice and they feel better after talking to me. They’re like, “Wow, Lucy, after I talk to you “I feel so calm and so much clarity.” So, that’s when I realized I had this super power of turning negatives into positives. So, maybe you’re stuck on this one event or negative spiral for days and if you tell me about it, maybe I can get you unstuck in 30 minutes or less. But back then I didn’t know. When I grew up I didn’t know life coaching was a career. I had no idea. So, I went to school for economics. You know the traditional schooling. I was going to go into finance, into corporate world. So, I had no idea life coaching was even a thing. I didn’t know, I had no idea. So, when I realized I was moving back to the U.S. soon, I wanted to find something that fits my values. I wanted to have aligned values. So, I was looking into what I’m going to do and that’s when I discovered the world of life coaching and business coaching. And I asked around. I asked my friends do you know about life coaching? And they were like, yeah. Celebrities have them. All these top entrepreneurs and celebrities all have coaches. So, even when people talk about how life coaching or business coaching could be such a saturated market, yet I know a lot of people around me who’s never had a coach all their life, or also have no idea what coaching is. So, yeah, that was the beginning.
– So, how is that transition going from what you were doing before to becoming an entrepreneur and sort of like learning this skillset of not just being a coach because that’s the technical aspect of what you do, but the business of running a coaching business and having to get customers and do marketing and all the other things that go with running a business. How is that transition for you?
– I think for me I love all things new. So, it was very fun and exciting, and that’s basically what I do with my clients as well. When you’re in transition and that’s why I love working with women in transition because sometimes it’s a little bit scary, right, it can be vulnerable, but I find this as the most beautiful period of time. Transitions are beautiful. That’s when you learn, you grow, and you grow out of your comfort zone. And it’s beautiful. I think you have to keep an open mind and just have fun along the way. Because we don’t wanna be so rigid and down to business and making money. For me and my clients, it’s about doing all of that while having fun.
– So, another question on that is how long have you been doing the coaching business so far?
– Coaching, I’ve been coaching for a year.
– Coaching for a year now. Are you still working solopreneur? Have you started to bring on any team members at all like a virtual assistant or anything like that yet?
– I just started on virtual assistance. Yes.
– So, you’re starting to grow your team and everything. What do you anticipate the growth of your business looking like over the next couple of years?
– Oh, I love it. I definitely would hope to bring on more business partners. I love women’s collaborations, so I do want to collaborate with other women in terms of holding workshops or any opportunities to support each other because I feel as women or any us business owners, I think if you ask the answer is probably yes. Right, us business owners.
– We want to see each other thrive. Seriously, Richard, I want you to do so well. I wish you all the success in business. So, I think we really, as entrepreneurs, have that hope for each other. I don’t think about the competition. I don’t worry about what others are doing. I just focus on my values and what I can bring, what values I can bring to my clients and people around me.
– One of my favorite aspects about the whole entrepreneur community is how one of the mentalities that comes from that is the abundance mentality where people aren’t fighting over the slices of pie, they’re creating new value, so there is very little. It’s easy to look at people who are in the same space as you or might be considered competition and say hey I wish you all the success in the world because you know there’s plenty of room for everyone. And it’s a great place to be in. So, yeah, I definitely appreciate that about our community as well.
– I want to talk a little bit more about your super power. So, you mentioned your super power a minute ago was helping women in transition and really understanding that and helping them get through that. I want you to talk a little bit more about that. Why do you think that’s your super power? I think one of the interesting questions is do you think that was something that was born, was it a born talent or something that you developed over the years?
– I think both. I definitely think I have a true calling for doing what I’m doing. I do see that I am more positive than a lot of people I know. But then, also, there’s that part of me and there’s also, of course, when we go to the gym and workout our muscles, physical muscles, we also workout our personal muscles like our traits. For example, confidence or gratitude. Whatever you need in life you practice on it. Yeah, we talked about this a little bit before our session started that my name was Lucy Liu. Right, so obviously, I always use that as an example because when I was very young when I was back in middle school, I’m from L.A. so I actually took acting classes, and I went to many auditions. I went to one audition after another and every single time the casting director would run out super excitedly, “Oh my god, I got Lucy Liu on the list. “Lucy Liu’s on the list.” They would literally run out of their office and I’m in the lobby and they’re like, “Oh, it’s not Lucy Liu. “It’s not the Lucy Liu.” So, my confidence was crushed from time to time obviously. They make it so apparent that they were disappointed to see me, but because of those practice I got, it made me super confident. So, on the first part, I’m naturally positive so I’m not super crushed, my life is ending, I’m useless. So, you can go down the negative spiral. Or you can choose to be positive, right.
– Yeah, absolutely.
– I think that is exactly why I kept my name as my maiden name. So, that’s my maiden name. Even though I’m happily married for many years, I’m still calling Lucy Liu because I want to be reminded that I am confident and that’s why I started my podcast just having that name. I don’t want to be over thinking like you’re double thinking, triple thinking. You can think for a month. Actually, when I started my coaching business, same thing. It took me three months to think of a name for my coaching business and it was just so hard. I didn’t like any of them. I couldn’t think of anything and I was helping no one. I had no clients. Come on, right. The moment I stepped up and I decided to just use my name, Lucy Liu Coaching. And that’s when I found that confident version of me again and I just called it by name and I was attracted to clients who felt they’d want the same confidence from me. So, I do believe that you have to choose to be whatever the version of you that you want to be.
– Yeah, yeah, so even if you have the natural talent, you have to work on and develop and make yourself better. So, the other side of someone’s super power is their fatal flaw. Just like Superman has his kryptonite or Batman is not actually a super hero, right, he’s just really smart and very dedicated and has lots of money. What would you say your fatal flaw is? Something that has held back your business, something you had to work on. I think more importantly, how have you worked on that, so people who might struggle with something similar can work to overcome that in their lives?
– I would say when I was very young I think my fatal flaw was ambition. I used to think ambition is good that’s why I dropped myself out of high school even with straight As. I felt it wasn’t enough. I was very driven. I wanted to succeed in life. I wanted to make billions of dollars and whatnot, but that got me somewhere I wanted. I became an entrepreneur. I was doing well financially. However, it did not get me very far. So, I was stressed out, burned out, overwhelmed. The reason I started to go into personal development was because I was physically having breathing problems. I had trouble breathing. I would have to gasp for air and it was just major massive shortness of breath. I had to get a lot of medical checkups and there was nothing wrong with me. There was just nothing wrong with me. I felt like I was going to die soon. It was just to the point of burnout and that’s when I realized ambition did not work for me. So, that was my totally very fatal flaw. And now I’m over that. I’m over the ambition part so I’m just having fun doing what I love and I feel like that’s why I do feel I live a joyful and fulfilled life because I’m just enjoying every part of my day. If I had to say something that I’m working on now is being a perfectionist. I think a lot of my clients tell me they’re all perfectionists, so I think there’s a part of us that always want to make things perfect. Wait for the perfect moment. So, I changed the language on that. I always say I’m a recovering perfectionist or ex-perfectionist. So, just by changing the language, you’re like oh I’m not that version of me anymore. So.
– Yeah, that is a really powerful self persuasion technique where you rewrite your own identity.
– And then you start to act in that identity, which is really powerful. One of the thoughts I had on the ambition thing is I used to struggle with something similar. Where I came down on it was a concept I call contented ambition. Contented ambition is the idea, for me anyways, that you are content with your life now. I love the things that I’m doing, where I’m at with my family, the business that I have. But I have a path forward. I have a destination. I have places I’m trying to go. So, it’s not that I shouldn’t have a goal, shouldn’t have things that I’m striving for, but you can’t just have that. You can’t just have something you’re striving for and not be content with your life because then you let your life slip by, right. You end up either running yourself into the ground and burnout and have problems that way. And for me, I can’t just be content with everything you have now without having a destination or goal ’cause then you won’t do anything. If the fruit’s not growing once it’s ripe, then it starts to die. So, you always have to be growing and pushing a little bit. So, I put those together. My life is having contented ambition.
– Absolutely. I love that. That reminded me of the difference was when I was focusing on the ambition I was chasing. I was constantly chasing something ahead of me. So, I’m never happy because I’m looking at my target ahead. And how you mentioned the difference is I’m living my life now. Yes, we set goals, of course. We have this destination, but we’re not focusing, for example, if your destination is eventually Z, how I used to live my life is I’m constantly looking at Z, so I’m constantly stressed out that I’m only on point A, B or C. Whereas now, though my destination is still Z, however, I’m very happy and moving along my letters and going from B to C, and that’s what I help my clients do as well. To make the slow progress and focus on the present.
– Yeah, I think for me one of the things that’s been a really good analogy in my own life is raising my children. You know the goal of raising your children is to raise them up into productive members of society. That’s the Z, right, I really want to get them to that point. But if that’s all we ever focus on, you forget to enjoy every moment, you’ll miss it. You miss the joy of raising your children.
– So, I try to take that same type of mentality to the other parts of my business where I enjoy every aspect of where I’m at even sometimes the things that are hard. You probably hear one of my babies crying in the background.
– Yeah, I was just about to say. That’s the beauty of parenthood.
– Yeah and moving forward it’s a wonderful new way to have that in your life and grow forward and everything. So, my next question for you though has to do with your common enemy. Think in terms of your clients that you bring on, the ones that you work with. Something that you constantly have to fight against with them whether it’s a mindset or something that you see you have to come in and fight against. What would you say that is that you see regularly that if you could just wave your magic wand or remove it from your clients’ life, what would that be?
– I would say fear. Everyone has fear. For me, I saw someone drown in front of me when I was five years old at the beach. So, ever since that day I was afraid to swim. In high school, I don’t know about your school, but we had to pass a swimming proficiency test in order to graduate. I practiced for months.
– Yeah, I had to do that.
– I just could not put my head into the water. So, I swam with my head out of the water and I felt like I was going to die because it hurt my back, hurts my spine, but I couldn’t do it because of that inner fear. I just literally could not do it. But almost a year into coaching, I realized that if I was talking the talk, I really need to walk the walk. I was breaking the fear of my clients all the time. One day I just decided I need to walk my walk and I need to put my head into the water. And guess what? I did it. So, mindset is a moment-to-moment shift. It only takes one decision. So, that’s the type of fear that I work with my clients because a lot of times in business we see that a lot. You want to go into something new but you’re scared. But you’re not gonna say you’re scared obviously. No one says I have fear. No one said that ever. But it’s on that deeper level sometimes it’s mostly fear. So, there is definitely fear and limiting belief. We always have this negative self talks. Everybody does.
– Yeah, the fear is an interesting one too because it holds a lot of people back and they don’t always articulate what the problem is. One of the things I see all the time with my clients is a fear of advertising. Advertising in the business that I work with all my clients it’s very important. It’s an important aspect of it. They’ll do all the things that lead all the way up to, like now we need to put something in front of people, and they’re like no, I don’t want to do that. We’ll spend a thousand dollars on a training course and a thousand dollars on a coach to do this and a couple thousand dollars getting things developed and we do all these things, and it’s like okay we need to put a hundred dollars into ads and they can’t do that because they might lose a hundred dollars. I’m like that doesn’t make any sense. But yeah, fear can be debilitating. And it doesn’t always make sense, but you have to help your clients work through that.
– So, if your common enemy is something that you fight against, your driving force is the thing you fight for. Right? So, just like Spider-Man fights to save New York, or Batman fights to save Gotham, or Google fights to index and categorize all the world’s information, what is it that you fight for in your business and with your clients?
– Honestly, for me, I think my mission is to inspire positive change in my clients obviously. I want to help them be happy. To overcome any obstacles that come up in their both personal life and business, and create more opportunities, right, because when we don’t see the negatives, when you look at the positives, you’re going to find new opportunities that you wouldn’t have otherwise found. I believe everyone is extraordinary. We are all extraordinary. You are amazing. Everyone is amazing. It’s like you can’t tell a fish to climb a tree, right, then the fish is going to think he’s stupid all his life. So, we gotta put your strength to work and really I just want to help my clients thrive and also have fun along the way. You’re not gonna make money at the cost of not spending time with your family. You’re not gonna grow your business to a million dollar business but you’re all burned out. So, I would say alignment with your values and priorities.
– Yeah, it’s a good place to be in too when you have an idea of what you want to do and what’s important to you. I think one of the things that we make a mistake at as entrepreneurs is we forget to think about what our values are, right, and then make decisions based on those. Use them as a judging stick. Does this gonna take more time away from my family or not. Is it gonna help me get more time with them. So, if you know what your values are and you set them out first, then it lets you make better, smarter decisions in your business.
– Absolutely. The version of success looks different for everyone. So, you just have to know what your meaning of success looks like.
– Yeah, yeah, I frequently talk about knowing the monster you’re building. Because not everyone wants to build a multi-million dollar Apple computer with a bajillion employees. That’s not everyone’s goal. Some people, and it’s an interesting thing, I’ve seen this happen in entrepreneur communities, where someone will be building a small business, solopreneur doing exactly what they want to do and they hit 10, 15 thousand dollars a month and they’re done. They just want to keep that business for the rest of their lives. And someone else will be like well that’s not like a real business. A real business has X, Y, Z, whatever it is, and I find that funny because it’s different for everyone. What a successful business for you looks like is different than what a successful business for me looks like. It’s interesting because you have to know how to define what your success is and then fight for that.
– Exactly. I can think of a million things I can outsource and delegate, but you know what, I actually have fun doing them. I have fun editing my own podcast and I actually have fun making pretty graphics for my guests. I actually have fun, and that’s why we have to reflect on ourselves what’s working for you, what’s not working for you. It’s not what other people are doing, it’s about you.
– Yeah, yeah. I’m the opposite. Making the pretty graphics and stuff like that, I would just rather chop my toes off, so I have other people do that for me.
– Exactly. We’re all different and that’s the beauty of life. We’re humans and it’s fun. That’s the beauty of life.
– Yeah, yeah, and it’s empowering. I think one of the things that people like you when you come in as a life coach, one of the things that I think life coaches do best for their entrepreneurs, for the people that they’re working with is give them permission to live the life that they’ve been dreaming about.
– Because you think you have to have permission and sometimes you just have someone come up and be like you know you’re allowed to build your business that way. Oh, really, I am. I don’t have to hold it up to some societal standard that doesn’t exist?
– And they’re always searching for validation, right, and you’re waiting for that aha moment. A lot of people talk about what’s your big aha moment in your business? For me, I don’t really have that aha moment. These little daily aha moments and wins that adds up. I just always trust that whatever I choose, right, I’m on the constant lookout for when I’m needing some work and that self awareness just keeps me going. I keep myself motivated. Motivation is not something you just take once and you’re motivated forever. You eat three times a day, you’ve got to take in motivation and inspiration like all the time. So, you gotta be self aware. You’re not in the mood, when you’re not in that positive vibe, do something about it. There are energy coaches out there that keeps you energized, right. Whatever you need, just ask for help.
– It’s true too, right, sometimes you have to know I’m not in a place where I can work right now. Sometimes you just take a couple hours off, go take a walk, go down to the beach and come back a little refreshed. Take some time for yourself. So, my next question has to do with, it’s more practical. I call this your hero’s tool belt. Maybe you got a big magical hammer like Thor or a bulletproof vest like your neighborhood police officer, or maybe you just really love how Evernote helps you organize all your thoughts. What are some of the practical tools you use to manage your business? Whether that’s getting your client appointment done or doing your onboarding, or growing your business. What are some tools that you just couldn’t live without for growing and maintaining your business?
– I would definitely say journaling. I journal my daily gratitudes and daily wins. Because this way you’re always celebrating everyday even the smallest wins. You want to feel that positive energy. You want to keep that momentum. It’s so much easier to keep a momentum going. Also for me personally, I don’t really keep a to-do list. People hate to-do lists. Everyone I talk to hate to-do lists, but they all have them. Why? You schedule it into your Google calendar. Whatever you need to do you schedule it, put it on your phone alarm and then when it goes off you just do it. When your Google calendar alert goes off, you do it. Don’t keep it on a list. You’re gonna hate the list and you’re gonna hate your life.
– That’s accurate. It’s one of the things that comes up all the time on the show is how important calendars are to people. Entrepreneurs, particularly, we live and die by our calendars. I’m curious on your journaling, do you have a real pen and paper that you’re journaling on or do you have one of those fancy tablets with pencil on it? How do you actually go about doing it?
– No, I do handwriting. Actually, the process of handwriting is kind of like meditation. Well, I also meditate, but meditation is also important. But even journaling the matter of fact and I try to write them really pretty. So, just that action is very healing, calming, and it’s like meditation in itself.
– So, do you have a certain set of questions that you answer everyday? I’m just curious for people who might be interested in journaling. What’s your process for that?
– I know online there are a lot of journal prompts. Journal prompts are really great when you are stuck on something. You ask yourself questions to figure out, to see that clarity. For me, I need my high vibe, I need to be positive and I love being positive, so what I do is just journal today I’m grateful for, I am grateful for A, B, C, and then my daily wins. No matter how small. Today’s win.
– So, if it’s not too personal, what was one of your biggest wins today so far? I know we’re only half way through the day.
– Today, well I got off my phone call with my coaching client earlier and she just had her best income month, so that was my biggest win.
– That’s a good win. I love those things. When you hear from your client and they’re like we just had our best month or a big breakthrough. I love that kind of stuff.
– Yeah, absolutely. I think as a coach, I think that’s why we become coaches. Seriously, it’s not about the money anymore. It’s about helping others, that fulfillment of living the life I choose to, and helping them life the life they choose to as well.
– Yeah, makes lot of sense. So, I want to talk to you about your own personal heroes. So, Frodo had Gandalf, Luke had Obi-Wan Kenobi, Robert Kiyosaki had his rich dad, who are some of your heroes? Were they real life mentors? Were they speakers or authors? Maybe peers who were a couple of years ahead of you? And how important were they to what you’ve accomplished so far in your business?
– I think there are just so many women that are inspirational, but at this point I would have to say I am who I am today because of Lucy Liu the actress. She is absolutely so talented. She’s a director, she’s an actress, and she’s an artist. She paints as well. So, I think she made a very big difference in my life. I had my name before she became famous. She has been acting for years, but of course when I had my name, or when I actually saw her, I think the first time I saw her I was in my teens and she was actually playing smaller roles. I was like oh my god I love this girl. I was like she’s gonna be so famous. Then, I’m kind of behind. I’m gonna be nobody. So, that was actually one of my limiting beliefs throughout my whole life. I’m nobody because she’s so famous. Right, you don’t see another Julia Robert or Angelina Jolie, it’s just not possible. So, I knew that my whole life I’m not gonna be as successful as her, so that played a big role in my life as I was growing up. Yet, today, where I am now, I am very thankful for that because I am the Lucy Liu to me. You know what I’m saying? I’m used to saying I’m not the Lucy Liu, but now I am the Lucy Liu because I am me. I am unique. When I started my podcast that’s the intention I put into it. Even if I just helped the life of one listener, I have made a better contribution to a better world and that’s all that matters because I’m not doing the comparison game. I’m just me and I love myself, and I make a difference.
– Absolutely. It’s a good place to be in too. It’s an interesting thing where you have someone who has shared your name and has that spotlight, and you share the cultural heritage and everything from Asia and whatnot, it’s a very unique thing that you had for yourself. It’s interesting that she served as canon to measure your life by and help you really identify what your uniqueness is.
– That’s really cool. So, I’m gonna bring it home for our listeners a little bit and talk about your guiding principles. What are top one or two principles or actions that you put into practice every day that you think contribute to the success and influence that you enjoy today?
– I would always say there is always a way. So, I truly, deeply, madly believe to everything there is always a way. To the point that it is carved in my bones. It’s probably flowing in my bone marrow. There’s no doubt every fiber of my being that I always believe there is a way. So, instead of finding excuses and lies, I just know that everything is going to work out in the end. So that way I look for new opportunities. So, I use this analogy as a rock. We’re gonna be thrown like rocks, that’s just life. There’s no way you’re gonna have a smooth sailing life, right. We’re going to be thrown rocks and these rocks are gonna be the obstacles that come up in life. Do yo see these rocks as boulders in your path blocking your path? Or do you see them as little pebbles that are paving your exact path to success and happiness? So, that’s gonna be a difference and that’s your choice.
– Yeah, yeah. I know one of the thing my brother and I tease about regularly is that people always ask you the question can you do something, right. Can you do this? And my brother and I always respond, much to my parents chagrin probably, that of course I can do that. Like it doesn’t matter to us. If you want to build a spaceship to go to the moon, we could do that. The more important question is how much time, money and effort do you want to put in to getting that result. Right, because we can put together the team and make it happen if you wanted something to happen. I just love that mindset of anything is possible. The question is not can you do it. The question is are you willing to put in the work and the effort to make it happen.
– Which I find to be a more important question. And one that people don’t always ask themselves. They always ask themselves if they’re willing to do the effort to get the results. It’s a powerful thing when you’re like hey I recognize what the effort is and I’m choosing to go ahead and do that because then you’re more likely to actually do it and succeed.
– Exactly. Another thing that I’m really big on is being present. So, one of my favorite quotes is yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift which is why we call it a present.
– I like that.
– So, I’m really big about being mindful because you don’t want to be worried about what happened in the past. You don’t wanna stress about the future. We’re gonna set aside time, we’re gonna block time to do the planning, yes, but other than that if I’m with my kid, I’m gonna be fully present. I’m gonna have fun, right. If I’m working, I’m having fun too. Whatever you’re doing and you’re having fun leisurely, whatever you choose to be doing, enjoy the exact thing you’re doing. So, if you are having fun and enjoy every moment, then from moment to moment, day to day, your whole life you’re going to have a joyful life.
– Yeah, it’s one of the things that I’ve been asked before how can you have, we have four kids, and I’ve been asked how can you love each of them. That’s a question that generally comes from people who either don’t have kids, or only have one, which cracks me up. But the idea is that you can give 100% of yourself to someone in a given timeframe. Same thing with your spouse, with your work, with whatever it is you’re doing. To your point, you can bring all of yourself to bear on whatever it is you’re doing right now. And I think that’s the point, right, to be present, is to not split yourself in little pieces and people, I think, mistake the idea that what I need to do is I’ve only got so much of me to go around, so I gotta cut it up in little pieces and work gets a little percentage, and one kid gets a little percentage, and my wife gets another little percentage, and nobody gets all of me. That’s just not the way it works. You take all of yourself to each relationship and you take all of yourself to each thing that you’re working on in your business or in your life.
– Yeah, honestly, I teach all my clients let’s learn from men. Let’s be single tasked. Let’s not multi-task too much and burn ourselves out. Yeah.
– Yeah. So, last thing that I do on this show is something I call the hero’s challenge. Hero’s challenge is really simple. It’s basically do you have someone in your life or in your network that you think has a really cool entrepreneurial story. Who are they? First names are fine. And why do you think they should come share their story here on our show?
– Oh, on your show. I have so many, oh my god. I have too many amazing women in my network so–
– So, just the first one that comes to mind.
– Honestly, wow, that is hard because they’re all great. But I would say because my podcast the episode that just went live today, I really adore her. She’s very inspirational. She’s a transformational coach, yoga teacher, her name is Karli Kershaw. I’m just putting her name out there because she’s the episode I uploaded today.
– Awesome, so maybe we can try and reach out later see if we can get her to come on our show and share what she’s doing for people. At this point, that basically wraps up our show. What I want to do real quick is first, thank you so much for coming on the show, Lucy, it’s been a pleasure speaking with you. And second, where can people find you? If they want to hear your podcast or if they are a woman who’s in transition and looking to get help with that. Where can they find you? And I guess more importantly, who’s the ideal person to reach out and say, hey Lucy, I need your help?
– Absolutely, thank you again, Richard, for having me. And all the beautiful souls you are all amazing, thank you for listening. Thank you for tuning in to my story. I am everywhere all across all social platforms at the same handle, M-S-L-U-C-Y, mslucyliu, and my website is lucyliucoaching.com and I work mostly with women who are ready to make a change. Together we rid, I say kiss overwhelm goodbye. So, yeah, reach out to me if you feel a little bit stuck, overwhelmed, stressed out and we’re gonna get you moving forward right away.
– Awesome. So, if you’re listening here and you’re one of our lady heroes who’s in transition looking to make a change, definitely reach out to Lucy. And its L-U-C-Y-L-I-U coaching dot com, is that right?
– Correct, thank you.
– Lucyliucoaching.com Thank you so much for coming on the show today, Lucy. Really appreciate it. Do you have any final words of wisdom for our audience before we go ahead and hit the done record button on this episode?
– Just remember there is always a way and more blessings are coming your way.
– Awesome, thank you so much, Lucy.
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